Finally after 6 months we got my dad close to all of us in a fantastic nursing home, smaller in size and he has never looked better.
I got an alarming call today explaining now they will be moving him to a private room on another floor as he has been inseparable with another FEMALE patient ...kissing, holding hands ect. When it was brought to their attention or his, he slammed his door ect.
While I am beyond heartbroken for him I do understand because of cognitive issues this may not be appropriate!!!
Has anyone ever dealt with this...??? I’m so sad for him and embarrassed as he really doesn’t understand being separated ect. I’m also worried, what if they can’t keep him?
Any advice or thoughts I’d love to hear. I was so happy visits were beginning next weeek here in Vermont, dining room, entertainment ect..he is every workers favorite ...thanks everyone ...just when I had hoped things were going good for once for him..now what?
Your dad is in a nursing home. Granted, you say it's a nice place and everything but it's still a nursing home. What's so wrong with them being in a romantic relationship if it brings them comfort and happiness? Even if he has cognitive decline and his girlfriend does too, if they are happy right now in each other's company then they should be left alone. It's not like an unplanned pregnancy will happen. Or even sex for that matter.
If a problem should arise in the future with him and his girlfriend like one doesn't remember the other or something, then that would be the time to separate them. Not now. For now they should just let them be happy together. It's cruel that the nursing home staff took that away from them.
Life in a nursing home is usually very lonely and very boring for the people living it. If two residents get together and can alleviate each other's boredom and loneliness then great. It's cruel that the nursing home staff took that away from them.
I was worried the lady’s family might demand some action be taken but they never did. I don’t even know if she had any family active in her care.
I don’t think this is anything to freak out about but it seems that the administration in your case is acting a little harshly. Have a talk. See what’s really going on. It could be a situation that’s harder to handle for the staff than what I went through with my dad.