He loves just to hold them and admire them, however I am scared he will forget they are loaded and a round will go off. If I try and take them away he will say what if someone tries to break in while we are sleeping or in the daytime ? How do I handle that question ? I would LOVE to take them and lock them up but I Know he won't have any pat of that.
Another option, depending on the sophistication of a substitute, is to find a child's toy made of plastic or something that just shoots water. Do you think he could tell they're just fakes?
Yet another option is to get something that he can admire but with which he can't do any damage.
If your husband or other family member with dementia or Alzheimer's has guns the best thing to do is not talk about the subject because these individuals cannot remember your remonstrances or your concerns.
So...that said remove the guns immediately. Be sure there will be no possible way your loved one will find them. While a demented person may appear to have forgotten most things, the fact is unless they are in the throes of late stage dementia they can still remember things from the past. So don't use an old standby hiding place.
Hope this helps.
As I'm writing this I'm realizing that getting RID of the guns is the only way to go. Do you have a grown child who could take them away? A friend or the police? Get them out of your home for your safety and the safety of everyone around you.
If your husband or other family member with dementia or Alzheimer's has guns the best thing to do is not talk about the subject because these individuals cannot remember your remonstrances or your concerns.
So...that said remove the guns immediately. Be sure there will be no possible way your loved one will find them. While a demented person may appear to have forgotten most things, the fact is unless they are in the throes of late stage dementia they can still remember things from the past. So don't use an old standby hiding place.
Hope this helps.
Your husband has mild dementia. I'm not sure how much you know about dementia, but from experience with several relatives, I can tell you that often the change from mild to "raging maniac" stage is often sudden and happens with no warning. Meaning, he may wake up one morning and decide that you're not his wife, you're an intruder. Or that the UPS man is coming to take him awsy. Or that he's back in the army and he's got to lead the charge to take Hill 25 (that was my Uncle. Every other week). You get the picture. He's going to shoot and hurt, possibly kill someone. The three year old next door. Or you. And YOU will be responsible, morally and legally because you know he has dementia and you know he has loaded firearms.
Please get rid of the guns. Call the local sheriff to help. Blame it on Obama. But please, please, get rid of the guns.
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You can tell him that you are getting an alarm system or that you are safer taking your chances without the guns in the house. And don't feel guilty. You are protecting you both. And eventually, he will likely not remember the firearms.