He loves just to hold them and admire them, however I am scared he will forget they are loaded and a round will go off. If I try and take them away he will say what if someone tries to break in while we are sleeping or in the daytime ? How do I handle that question ? I would LOVE to take them and lock them up but I Know he won't have any pat of that.
I sold it back to the gun shop he'd gotten it from, after he passed, didn't even tell my sons or SILs until afterwards. At one time we had a couple of antique guns, one someone had given him and one that was my dad's, but they were stolen in a house burglary. (That's another reason to get the guns gone--a burglar is more likely to grab it and shoot you than vice versa.)
thenthe first nh sued us for 25,000 grand..they thenlooked at our bnk statements which just had our ss in them
then came medicaid then mass health..and meals on wheels
then uncontrolled diabetes, hepatitis, high blood pressure
then another nh the last one where they overdosed him on metformin a drug that is used along with insulin..thenkidney failure from thst overdose from their dr's you see THE NH takes over all med personnel that you have
you see now i cannot even get his personal belongings
they conveniently CANNOT find them nice huh????
You said you were at work, came home and he was falling apart after drinking 6 sodas? Look into adult day care for him while you are at work.
We have not heard from you since 9/15 and frankly I am still worried for you.
Tragic.
I told him I'd always wanted the Remington such and so, and he said well I don't use it, just take it with you. I had all my male relatives come by and play the same tune until the long guns and all the ammo were gone. There was on little pistol he insisted on keeping for protection. I had my gun Savy BIL sneak it out, disable it and put it back.
What alarms me about your story is hubby sitting around fondling loaded pistols. This tells me either the dementia is clouding his judgement or he never learned and followed proper gun safety. That is soooo basic. You don't sit around playing with and fondling a loaded gun . I hope there's no kids around that know about these guns, not to mention a druggie neighbor kid.
Do it the easy way if you can or the hard way, no matter how mad he gets. This is unacceptable.
I think everyone is concerned that they are loaded and don't want anything to happen to you..
Us caregivers stick together.. Hugs..
My dad does not have dementia yet, but does have problems with his memory. His gun is now missing and we now have to file a report. Suspect that it was stolen. I understand that having a gun makes people feel more secure, but your husband does not need to be handling the gun.
Instead of removing the guns, call a local gunsmith and ask if there is a way to disable a firearm.
If the ammo is taken away the gun owner will immediately know the weight of the guns feels different. If the gun is disabled, it will still have the same weight with the bullets and the gun is now harmless to whomever is holding it. But that comes with a downside as Blannie had mentioned above, the police wouldn't know if it was fire able or not.
If someone knowledgeable, such as a former military person or gunsmith, removes the firing pin, it's my understanding that the gun can't be fired. I'm not sure about this though.