Hi,
We received a discharge letter from my Mom's assisted living facility, and we just realized that it has the wrong name on it. They put my sister's name down as the person to be discharged. The discharge would be within 30 days from the date of the letter if we don't appeal.
But, should they be sending us a new corrected letter with a new 30-day date?
Has this happened to anyone else here before, and if so, what was your experience?
THanks!
So the discharge letter says she needs NH care, and you are bringing her to live with you. If you don't know what you're getting yourself into, I'd suggest taking some time reading this forum.
"The difficulty is my sister who is slow to react (some valid reasons, but some of her own making- she's a lamenter) and who keeps changing her mind. We're in different states too so my sister is having a hard time 'letting go.' She just said, I wished I could have one more month to get things in order, so that's partly why I'm asking. "
What does this mean? What does she have get in order? Is she your mother's POA? If she had another month, would she be taking your mother in?
Most people come to regret moving their elders into their home. Many move their parents in (or move into the elder's home) as an alternative to a facility. But in this case your mother has been in an AL, and you are now deciding to move her in because she needs NH-level care?
Yikes.
I am looking for facilities in my area too. I'm not discounting them. My partner and I are thinking that we are an interim solution. At this moment, I am the only one who can easily see my Mom everyday. My sister has a new full-time job, selling her house (settlement soon), renovating a new house, has new grandkids, ...and nursing facilities in her area are almost an hour from where she lives. The one that is relatively close reeked of urine. My Mom also needs a medicaid bed as she ran out of money a long time ago.
I probably shouldn't have said that I don't know what I'm getting myself into as I've done CNA care in the past. I'm retired but with a small personal cheffing business that I can do when I want to.
At this point, my Mom craves seeing her kids. My sister and I are the main visitors, while my other siblings are pretty much out of the picture. I just want to make my Mom as comfortable as possible.
Thank you for your input - I really appreciate it. Blunt is great!
Not that you asked in this post but I think you should rethink your plan to move your mom in with you.
Have her placed in a Skilled Nursing facility and then you have time to look for one that is more to your liking. None of them will be perfect but taking care of someone with dementia that is confined to a wheelchair is not easy. The reason that the facility has to discharge her is because her care is beyond what they can safely manage...and you think you can do better? (I hate to be blunt like that..)
The State Ombudsman says there needs to be a new letter with the correct names in place. And because there is a new letter due to changes, there is a new 30 day window.
Thank you again for all your responses!
We have a plan to bring her to my house. The difficulty is my sister who is slow to react (some valid reasons, but some of her own making- she's a lamenter) and who keeps changing her mind. We're in different states too so my sister is having a hard time "letting go." She just said, I wished I could have one more month to get things in order, so that's partly why I'm asking. All of this makes planning the transition very, very difficult.
Thought this might be a bit of a reprieve. All will work out!
Thanks again.