My husband has developed a neurodegenerative disorder and my problem is that I am by no means well-off (he's not working or able to, but because he was self-employed, he wasn't eligible for disability) but buying diapers, wipes and pads (for protection of bedding) eats a lot out of my income. Is there help for those of us "in the middle"?
Would he qualify for Medicaid? They provide the supplies at no cost.
I was in a thrift store recently and saw such supplies for sale. Not a lot, but any savings helps. If you have thrift stores near you or on a frequent route, check them out often. I understand that food banks sometimes have these supplies, too.
Ordering in large quantities online can offer some savings. Others here who have done that will probably be along to suggest specific sources.
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Neither thrift stores or estate sales are reliable sources, though. Maybe food pantries, also? Maybe you can find a good supply once in a while and save a little money now and again.
I just watch for sales at the local grocery store, and I cut coupons for Depends... there is usually a $2 coupon in the Sunday coupon fliers every other week.
There is such a thing as a urine catcher that goes on the end of a penis. I forget what they're called. I bought some for my dad on the advice of his nurse and he didn't like them but they're reusable for night time.
A shower curtain could be bought for $5 and reused to protect the mattress instead of using disposable products. If you had a couple of vinyl shower liners, you could rotate their use each day. More work but less money overall.
Watching for Buy One - Get One sales on absorbent undergarments in drug stores is a good recommendation. I've also found large quantity of Depends on Amazon for around $0.50 per underpants.
The reusable pads would be worth investing in. If you had 5 or so, you could wash and rotate those.
If your husband is going to be incontinent for the rest of his life, I wonder how hubs doctors would feel about him using a catheter to be able to control the wetness factor. It's not good for hubs skin to be lying in wetness all the time. If the put in a catheter and connected to a leg bag, it could hide under hubs clothes and give him some dignity. Then you don't have to spend for absorbent things for every day, plus the skin will stay dry.
Just some thoughts, good luck. :-)