My mother is 91 with late stage Alzheimer. She sleeps 22 to 24 hour daily. When she is awake, she comes up with how her doctor has given her information on how to die at home. Now, I know the doctor has never and will never give her such information. When I tell her this, she gets mad and tells me "yes he did, and so did the other doctor down the road". I take her to all doctor appointments and there is no other doctor down the road. How do I deal with this.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation.
And who wouldn't be tired at 91, and ready to leave this world for the next?
But like lealonnie said below when someone suffers from any of the dementias, it's important to just meet them where they're at, in their world, as they no longer are living in ours.
So when she starts talking about these doctors, you just go along and say oh really, the doctor said that huh? Well that's interesting isn't it, and move on. You should NEVER try and correct someone with dementia as that will only upset them and you as well as you are discovering.
And another thought, if your mother is in late stage Alzheimer's, why would you continue to take her to the doctor? There's nothing more they can do for her at this point. Perhaps instead it's time to bring hospice on board, as they will have a nurse to come once a week to start to check her vitals, aides to come bathe her twice a week, and you will have access to their chaplain, social worker and doctor as well. And the fact that she's late stage Alzheimer's and sleeping so much she would have no problem qualifying for it. And it's all covered 100% under your mothers Medicare, including any needed equipment, supplies and medications.
It's time to make sure your mother is as comfortable as possible as she gets ready for her journey from this life to the next.
God bless you.
Don't bother correcting her statements that don't make sense. Who cares? Just let it go.
Get her evaluated for hospice ASAP.
Sorry that your mom is failing but at 91, not a huge surprise.