My mom is in rehab for PT to get her walking again. The social worker came in and gave her 3 words and said remember these, I'll ask for them later. Then he asked what day it is, the month and the year. She got them all correct, but could not remember the words. He gave her strong hints, but she just could not get one.
Then the test where you need to name words that begin with a certain letter. I could do that in a heart beat EXCEPT when I am sitting in a doctor's office.... [rolling eyes].
Next week I have my annual check up. Not sure how I will answer when asked "who is the current President?".
My example is my Mom. With the test she forgot the 3 words, couldn't recall anything. However with hints she easily remembered all three. This told something about the process of memory retrieval. The neurologist told me that because she could remember with hints, it was less likely to be Alzheimers. And in fact she ended up being diagnosed with dementia caused by Normal Pressure Hydrocephalus. Her memory is awful, but she still has very good understanding.
After reading your response, there's obviously way more going on here than whether or not your mom can re-state three basic words on delayed recall. I asked in my original post whether or not OT and speech are part of the rehab team because if not, they should be. It sounds like you already know that your mom is unsafe at home. I'm not completely clear on what assist she needs with her toileting, but it sounds like she needs help. Her rehab team is there not only to help her regain function, but to make recommendations to her and your siblings for her safest possible and most manageable discharge. It sounds like these decisions are up to your brothers until you replace one of them on her healthcare proxy.
If you're truly concerned about dementia and cognitive function, this is the time to have her fully assessed if she hasn't been already. A good clinician will take her hearing impairment into account. And the results may better guide everyone in decision-making.
Mom may need help to walk to the bathroom or pull her pants down. I am not sure. At the point, I had talked about it at the 1st meeting, it was not clear if she could get up and walk using a walker on her own.
As she falls asleep every time she sits down, I think she is a cooking hazard. However, she will not allow anyone else in the house except this one woman. She did has a lot of money stolen from her from her 2nd caretaker. It was a she said, she said situation and so we could not press charges.
because I am retired, I think both brothers think I have all this free time to babysit her. she is 45 min away from me. I take her to all her medical appointments, and out to her COA on Fridays for the knitting group.
I simply do not want to live there. Neither does my hubby want me to live there. Driving back and forth is wearing me out. I am 64. Not a young kid anymore
Really it is more important for those who are most familiar with someone's behaviors, abilities, routines, etc to keep tabs on them and watch for the subtle signals, and they ARE subtle (some can be caused by other medical issues, many of which can be treated.)
Early dementia can be dealt with, even allowing the person to live alone for a while longer (we did this, using various tricks and tools to keep tabs on her and try to keep her safe such as cameras, locked alarmed Rx dispenser, bringing in aides for quick one hour visit/check, enlisting eyes/ears of neighbor, etc.) Doctor's do not see patients on a regular basis or for very long during appointments. The MME test can be relatively useless for the early stages as "show-timers" can get through the test, yet be incapable of doing simple tasks at home! Listen, Observe and Report.
Even when I was school, including university lectures, I found I got relatively little information out of hearing, and often found my classroom notes almost useless, often reverting to textbooks to absorb the subject. I take in information much better by visual rather than auditory means.
DH did better than me and he was 96 to my 66.
Don't worry about it. It's just one of several ways that they test the brain.
Easy to do if you're retired.
Aso yourself, humm have I forgotten something someone told me before?
Im sure the answer is yes.
Just Saying
You didn't say why your mom is in rehab. Did she have surgery that required general anesthesia? Did she have pneumonia or a UTI? All of these can cause temporary, and sometimes permanent, issues with cognition. Being in a rehab facility also frequently unmasks cognitive impairment because the person is no longer in their own environment. If this is the case, there's often a referral to speech therapy for cognitive interventions.
The best thing to do in this situation is speak directly with the social worker and/or team members if you have concerns. Cognitive assessment should be an ongoing process when someone is in rehab. It's not a one-time screen and everything is determined from that. Your mom's memory lapse may have been situational but if she is showing difficulty in other areas of cognitive function, then this is an opportunity to identify them so that good supports can be put in place.
I had wondered if she had dementia, but she seemed to be ok. Now however, she is seems to be a bit more difficult. Even with hearing aids, she is very hard of hearing. I am seeing her attempt to read lips also. She was never very bright to begin with, never had a time line ever, is illiterate. she talks about stuff that happens years past as if they happened yesterday.
I live 45 min away, one brother lives 90min away and is having surgery, so he won't be able to come down for at least 6 weeks. she lives in an inlaw apt with our youngest brother, who works some days and some nights and is hardly home. Frankly, I don't want to have to deal with a person that cannot toilet herself and is just plain mean! she is 150 lbs, I can't lift her either.
this nursing home won't talk to me about mom unless she is present. I am thinking that maybe I should just ask my questions anyway. I think I was trying to spare her feelings.
I visited her last night and got an earful! I went to the nursing station and it seems there were just 2 nurses on the floor - not a huge floor by any means. one gave me a difficult time, I am not on her healthcare proxy, but I am on the hippa. says she couldn't talk to me because of not being on the health care proxy - the nursing supervisor said there can only be 2 people on it and I was ok with both brothers. I will be taking one off and adding me.
My mom often mentioned that my late dad's neurologist used the same three words every single time he was tested. Nowadays, when Mom's doctor says, "I'm going to say three words and I want you to remem...", she cuts him off and blurts, "apple, penny, table!"
I feel for you.. and i will say that you write very well...your story is just heartbreaking. 😢 With this kind of short-term memory loss we learn to compensate in other areas, which become our strengths. I had a brain tumor in my young forties which affected my sh-term memory, but i do make lists and notes to remember what is important. I also challenged myself to earn a Master’s degree, complete at age 59! You can do amazing things when you put your mind to it. 🤓