Every time I go visit my mom which is about 400 miles one way she starts trying to limit my food and harasses me about being overweight. I have asked her nicely not to bring up my weight problem that it just causes hurt feelings but she keeps on doing it.
Do not argue. Do not justify. Do not validate or deny anything she says. Just keep saying it, over and over, in response to everything she ever says about your food or your weight.
If you want her to stop trying to control you (I'd call what she's doing "body policing"), then you gotta stand up for yourself. You can do it! :-)
There's nothing you can do to make her stop. She is putting her own issues with food and body image on YOU. It is her way of dealing with her own insecurity in that area. Even though the comments are directed at you, they really have nothing to do with you at all. It's all about how she feels about herself.
Also, I encourage you to continue to say "it hurts me when you talk like that" or "please do not discuss this with me", something along those lines if it helps you to feel less of a victim.
Unfortunately, this is one of the hardest things to deal with; aging parents rarely alter long-standing habits and ways of communicating. We have to accept it, learn a strategy to deal with it, or limit our interactions with them.
Best of luck to you
Margaret
Or if your mom is in her right mind then her nagging is probably a continuation of the nagging you’ve listened to your whole life. Nagging, if not about weight, it’d be about something else....
So I assume you’d be used to that. Just say THANKS MOM...and take a trip to a nearby restaurant if your mom’s starving you! I have to sneak to get a meal when visiting my parents; I have brittle blood glucose levels (no diabetes) and will pass out if I don’t eat regularly.