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As adults with aging parents, what are your biggest concerns or fears? Do you think they align with the concerns/fears of your parents? How easy is it to have that conversation?
My fear is that my FIL will continue to suffer the loss of his dignity at a snails pace. He is not losing his memory as quickly as he is losing his ability to do anything for himself. He’s so sad, but overall has no disease that will hasten his death. He just knows what he’s lost and thinks 90 years old is plenty old enough.😞
My fear is that my father will end up bedridden...not really 'living', just existing. The 'life' he has now is painful to watch and he is still able to get around on his own. I worry that his brain will completely go but his body will continue on.
Ceecee65, that sounds exactly what my husband and my MIL are going through at this time except my husband is 69 and his mom is 87. My husband has had cancer, many small strokes, two large ones, and along with his other health issues, is just fading away and he knows it. He feels lost each day.
My biggest concern is declining with dementia and no quality of life and my inability to keep her home, need 24/7 care. And also her narcissism because of dementia, that results in losing mother as is.
I am sole caregiver to my 103 year old aunt and my 90 year old mother. My aunt lived alone till 6 months ago. Since we moved her in with my mom, she has fallen twice. Broke 5 ribs and lost vision in her right eye. Still gets up and sits in her chair daily, but I’ve been forced to get almost 24/7 caregivers. Getting weaker every day. Weighs 80. One of my biggest fears/concerns is that my mom is getting used to the caregivers being around and isn’t getting up and doing much for herself anymoreZ. In and out of ER multiple times in the last few months with UTI’s and dehydration. Otherwise, she gets around as well as I do. (I’m 60) but feel like she is declining mentally. All her sisters have lives to be 100 + so I’m concerned about how I’ll provide caregivers for her when my aunt passes for the next 10+ years since my brother has cleaned her out since my dad died 25 years ago....
@Pepsee yes, I think sometimes we have different goals or worries than our parents do and its hard to figure out the middle ground in keeping them safe and healthy while also giving them space to age as they'd like. I have a hard time having that conversation because my parents are fiercely independent at this time and refuse to really talk about their desires as they age
wally03 no not so much the death part- just seeing my parents already having difficulty with things that used to be so easy and worrying about what it will look like when they really decline physically or mentally. Right now they're still very independent and feeling"invincible" so having the conversation about what aging will look like for them is difficult. My husband and I live far away and I know they'd never want to leave their home, but I worry how we will cross that bridge if they begin to need more assistance and right now that's not a conversation they're interested in having, although I think this is the best time to have it
Hard to explain in writing, but here goes...my dad often claims he’s ready to go, wants to die in his sleep, to be found dead having gone peacefully, etc. However, he very much loves doctors and obsesses over every symptom and ailment. He constantly wants to go one doc or another, or is looking for some new med to take for something. I’m blessed that my dad doesn’t deal with dementia, but what he does deal with is constant worry. This didn’t come with old age. My fear for him is that in this constant fight for life he won’t get his wished for peaceful exit from this world. There are worse fates than death, and I fear one of them for him
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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He’s so sad, but overall has no disease that will hasten his death. He just knows what he’s lost and thinks 90 years old is plenty old enough.😞
there are no conversations about anything regarding fear. cause moms not going to remember.
in my case, my mother has no fears. at least not real ones.
are you afraid a parent is dying and they know it? and you don't want to talk about it cause its too hard?
My husband has had cancer, many small strokes, two large ones, and along with his other health issues, is just fading away and he knows it. He feels lost each day.