Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
I don't know if you have children or not - but handle it just like you would a child. Change the subject, walk away or ignore it. A person with Dementia doesn't have a mind functioning at full capacity. So they sometimes don't even know what they're doing. I would try one of those. If you would elaborate a little more, you might be able to get more help.
One of my favorite Buddhist proverbs...I think it applies in this case, for sure. In other words...don't be driven by your emotions and react...take a moment and think about it and let your mind respond to the situation rather than your heart, temper, impatience, or frustration.
Temper tantrums, separation anxiety and loss of object permanence - it really is a second childhood. My mother-in-law becomes anxious when my husband leaves - he calls it separation anxiety. She swears she is at the nursing home all by herself, no staff is there to care for her - loss of object permanence (if you can't see them, they don't exist). I'm grateful she isn't throwing temper tantrums. I think handling the temper tantrum like you would with a child is a valid suggestion.
you just dont disagree with them. if they want to eat soup with their fingers let em eat soup with their fingers. thats the idea anyway as long as nobody is being harmed. my mom stood on the porch and threw wrenches and sockets as far as she could throw em the other day. it didnt make any sense but it didnt hurt anyone.
I hated it when my daughter had tantrums, and I hated it when my father had tantrums!
Could he/she have a urinary tract infection? That often causes big changes in behavior.
The most important thing is to keep yourself safe, by leaving if necessary. The second most important is to keep him/her safe. Try not to get upset over the yelling, any more than you would with a three year old. The tantrum is often a reaction to hunger, pain, fear, confusion or sadness, just as it is with a young child.
Tell him/her that you love her, and that you will keep her safe. Probably the details "causing" the tantrum aren't that important, but are just a trigger.
Discuss this with the doctor to see if medication can help - an antidepressant or antipsychotic. Going through the tantrum is hard on her, too, so if it can be avoided with drugs, it's better for both of you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
One of my favorite Buddhist proverbs...I think it applies in this case, for sure.
In other words...don't be driven by your emotions and react...take a moment and think about it and let your mind respond to the situation rather than your heart, temper, impatience, or frustration.
Could he/she have a urinary tract infection? That often causes big changes in behavior.
The most important thing is to keep yourself safe, by leaving if necessary. The second most important is to keep him/her safe. Try not to get upset over the yelling, any more than you would with a three year old. The tantrum is often a reaction to hunger, pain, fear, confusion or sadness, just as it is with a young child.
Tell him/her that you love her, and that you will keep her safe. Probably the details "causing" the tantrum aren't that important, but are just a trigger.
Discuss this with the doctor to see if medication can help - an antidepressant or antipsychotic. Going through the tantrum is hard on her, too, so if it can be avoided with drugs, it's better for both of you.