He is always right, in denial, blames everyone else, controlling and a retired high powered engineer (66). He has inherited cardiovascular disease controlled for 20 years, now type 2 diabetes after 15 years of high triglycerides, will not exercise, will not tell his doctors he has cognitive decline because he is perfect! Four years ago he started raging at his wife (me), denied it as he did not remember doing it, now has short term memory problems. He created the story I am bipolar and sold it to everyone to divert attention away from his problems. His doctors feel sorry for him having a wife so mentally ill. Bottom line, they don't live with him and see his decline, when I tried to discuss his problems with doctors, he would pull the bipolar sob story and become the innocent victim. I have been isolated and cannot get ANY help. Do I just wait it out?
I'm very sorry to hear what you are going through. I know its not easy. We can all get so stubborn and stay in denial as well.
Clearly, there is an issue and it has be addressed. There are resources in the community and through the church. Do not be afraid to reach out and access those resources. Talk to the family doctor. Talk to a social worker. Check the Seniors Department of your town.
I would not wait it out because things will only escalate. My dad was similar and I thought he was just being a grumpy old man. But at 80 things were coming to head, he had high blood pressure, cholesterol issues, type 2 diabetes, and it was all from smoking. Its not easy trying to manage a person who is stuck in their ways. I for one just wished I had tried to find more resources for him and myself.