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If you do not feel he is safe call the DMV and they probably will have him take a road test which he will not be able to pass or just tell him he can not drive if he has an accident you may be held responsible and you can help him find other ways to get around-he will not be happy but there comes a time when it is no longer safe for an elder to drive.
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in some states, You can anonymously request that any driver of a certain age be tested again and then let the DMV tell him.
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I disabled my fathers truck by removing a spark plug and he could not remeber how to fix his truck. Be sure and contact any mechanic he may call and ask them to quote a huge amount to fix his truck. Then he will say he cannot afford to have car fixed and may be willing to give up driving. Also offer a taxi service for him and you pay for it. in Texas they have something called TAPS-it costs very little and if given 24 hrs notice they will pick up and deliver to Drs appoint,ments. if all else fails write yout Dept Motor Vehicle and they will bring him in for a road test. Sometimes if his medical Dr tells him not to drive they listen better.
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Dianna I abstracted this information-in part for you~

It's heartbreaking to see aging parents or loved ones lose their mental or physical ability to be safe drivers.

The warning signs can be scary. You see their reaction time slow significantly and dexterity diminish. They become easily confused or disoriented when driving or following directions. Vision and perception problems prevent them from accurately reading road signs. And illness or other physical limitations impair their ability to drive effectively.

Ultimately, it may be up to you to tell them that they can't drive anymore.(and to add---you may be able to have your family physician make the reccommendation to your Dad-----As I did-when I had to have my Mom stop driving., when she first went into Assisted Living....I have heard that some people will remove or disable an engine part-so the car will not start.
Best to you in your caregiving,
Hap
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My father ( who has dementia) was hiding his drinking (had always been a bourbon man but switched to vodka) and didn't make it home one night. He passed out behind the wheel at a stop sign on the street behind my parents house. My mother had looked for him, called relatives, then called the police to report him missing. The police found him and sent him to the hospital in an ambulance. I realized when I got there that God had literally put my dad's keys in my hands. It made the decision so much clearer. We were extremely lucky that no one had been hurt or killed (including him). Yes it was hard for my mother having him ask everyday for the keys. I suggested we change one lock so he could open his van but not be able to drive it. I also disabled it for a while just in case he had additional keys hidden somewhere. He continued to ask for the next year and a half and I had to stand firm with him. So did my mother. Once you have addressed the situation, you will probably be at peace with knowing you have done the right thing, even though it scares the stew out of you now. Driving is a privilege (that is why we all have to pass a test) not a right. I'm about to have to address the issue with my mother - she has macular degeneration (and recently has MANY marks on her car).
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I had this same situation with a very stubborn mother and finally used the direct approach. "Mom do you think you should be driving anymore, it scares me to get in the car with you and I'm afraid you're going to hurt/kill someone" She handed the keys straight over.
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First, use English. Explain why you believe this to be the case and offer alternatives that will work to get him where he needs to go. If his doctor agrees with you, have them tell Dad what you told Dad. If you must, disable his car. This is where it starts to get ugly, but letting him drive when he's not safe is not so smart either. Bring in other family members with the same message to Dad if you can. Expect resistance. This is going to hurt, no matter how you do it. Good Luck. God Bless You.
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