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Before sitting down for breakfast, my mother took her socks off folded them together and placed them next to her on the corner of the kitchen table. I looked at the socks in disgust, looked at her and said, "I would never do that. I would never put my socks from off of my feet on the kitchen table.." So she says the feet part aren't on the table." I said "It doesn't matter! A decent person wouldn't do that!" So she rolls her eyes and makes her angry face and sticks the socks under her shirt! Morning everyone!

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My husband has left his socks on the kitchen table at times over the years! I can get upset and work myself up, or we can get into a fight, or I can ask him to please remove them from the table/floor and put them in the washing machine. My DH is THE most decent person I know, btw, he's just absent minded.

When you make a choice to live with someone, you have to overlook certain annoyances lest you become a burned out nervous wreck.
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Anxietynacy Sep 2, 2024
YUP 😛, socks on the table with my husband is the least of my concerns.
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Good Morning!!

I apologize, for some reason seeing the title of this thread brought to mind President and Mrs Clinton's cat.
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Anxietynacy Sep 2, 2024
Sorry cover I don't get it?
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Are you sweating the little stuff?
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Ohmymy Sep 2, 2024
I know..and oh theres more, much more.
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In one of your replies below you said that your mother has some cognitive issues, so if that is the case, why in the world would having her socks on the table even surprise you at this point? And why get upset over something so minor?
I mean it could have been a lot worse, as she could have instead brought you a piece of her poop from the toilet. Now that you could get upset over.
But until then, take a chill pill and learn to pick your battles. Not every molehill has to be made into a mountain.
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Ohmymy Sep 3, 2024
To each his own. Its called cleanliness. To me one's dirty socks on the table where we eat is repulsive just as poop on a table is!
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If this is the worst it gets you’re amazingly lucky!
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AlvaDeer Sep 3, 2024
Perfect answer.
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I am so grateful for this question on AC at this time.
I so badly need a joke here, and the discussions joke column just isn't doing it for me.
Really, we have to file these under "things aren't YET too bad!".

The marvelous thing is that the "new thinking " is that from infancy we do not get enough germs. Especially true now that infants aren't even born out a birth canal often enough, but by sterile C-sections. They say best thing we can do for our infants is get a dog! Don't say to let it sit on the kitchen table, however.
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Anxietynacy Sep 2, 2024
Alva, read problems using the Internet, you might get a little giggle
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Don’t see correlation between socks and being decent.
Good thing hubs and I don’t wear socks often.
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Ohmymy Sep 3, 2024
Are you crazy? It is indecent. We eat at the table!
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My hubby would put his baseball hat on the kitchen table. Eeeeek, but I would just quietly move it to were the hat belongs when not on someone's head. I felt it just took a couple seconds to do, and not worth an argument :)
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Evamar Sep 3, 2024
Alva,
Well said as always.
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I feel bad for your mother with cognitive issues. A decent person??? I hope you find placement for her soon.
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Anxietynacy Sep 2, 2024
Sorry accidentally hit the thumbs up.

By the way if you forgot, this is a SUPPORT group,
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Early on, my husband’s odd or outrageous behaviors freaked me out too. My reactions were along the line of, “You cant be serious!” “What on earth were you thinking?” “Grown-ups don’t behave that way!” I was scared and disoriented.
Now I try to see the humor if the behavior isn’t dangerous or horrifying. I say TRY because I don’t always succeed. It’s way too easy to be shocked, then sad and defeated especially when you’re exhausted.
I appreciate your post and others like it because I see that bizarre behaviors aren’t at all uncommon and I’m not alone in my reactions, especially in the early days when living with dementia feels like living in a parallel universe.
It seems like the most experienced and best carers on this forum are usually able to keep calm and see the funny side yet give themselves grace when they don’t . I am learning to survive by their example.
I hope it’s not offensive to share outrageous or amusing experiences here; a little light on a dark day really helps.
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