Hello all, First and foremost I would like to thank each and everyone of you for your advice and stories. Until I found this site I truly thought I was the only one living in this hell. I am 47 years old and have been caring for Grandma well over 25 years (yes years). My uncle (her son) collects money from the county along with all medical for caring for her,she only sees him twice a month or if she has a doctor appt,.( he takes her to every appt.) he has to, he has convinced her doctor he cares for her and he is always requesting more hours,, to get more money from the county. Uncle has drained her accounts and had her sell her stocks, she is penniless except for the social security she gets and on one of his 2 visits , its always around the 3rd of the month when she gets her check, and of course she gives him half. I work full time and get no help from anyone for her care, because he collects that money from the county I can not apply for any other type of assistance for her. I tell her what they are both doing is wrong, and fraud , I then get her screaming cussing and sometimes hitting me. I have no life and no friends, she chases them away. I would just like to get your opinions on this should I turn him in and risk Grandma being prosecuted to. Thank you all in advance.
Move out. Get your own life. Visit her once or twice a week or once or twice a month ... whatever moves you.
Let Uncle take responsibility. If you find that he is not being responsible, report the situation to Adult Protection Services.
Of the three people in this scenario, the only one you have control over is you. You really do not need to live in this hell. Move out.
Now ... go find an apartment!
(Good luck!)