Is there any help for my parents who "make too much"? He is a WWII veteran with Alzheimer's'. She is a retired teacher who has compromised logic from a stroke 10 years ago. He and Mom married last year, after reconnecting from 45 years ago, and even though I love them both with all my heart, I am overwhelmed with caring for both of them. I thought I had round-the-clock care for them three weeks ago (after they both got out of the hospital) for a few weeks until a live-in caregiver could be found, but the caregiver didn't work out and now money is tight. As long as I have the strength, I am not sending either of my parents to a nursing home. They just would not be happy there. I have some type of undiagnosed illness that is sapping my strength so I don't know how long I can keep them out of a home. I have been the primary caregiver for Mom for 9 and a half years, and the primary caregiver for my new dad for two years. I need live-in care for them... the person can even hold a part time job or go to school. They can have two days off per week, but they must also pass a background check. All living expenses can provided, but I can't pay them even close to 2,000+ a month which seems to be the going rate for a professional... any suggestions??
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For adult children that assume the role of caregiver, there are resources and options available for compensation. You may be able to create a personal care agreement, get paid for taking care of elderly parents, or receive government assistance.
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Look at the section titled Support Groups and check to see if you can find similar questions. The issue of home care has been discussed quite a bit here, as have qualifications to get veteran's assistance.
It might take some time, but you'll probably find other questions and answers that could help you. And reading other posts is an educational experience, so you might get ideas on how to get help that you didn't realize existed.
Good luck!
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