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Odoban should work. I use it on poop stains, and it works great. Tips: 1) Put thick drop cloths, blue pads, or bathroom rugs down anywhere he might pee as long as it’s not a tripping hazard. 2) Get a bedside commode and/or urinal (and put a drop cloth or any other option beneath where he will use it). 3) Encourage him to use “thick underwear/boxers”. That’s what we call diapers. There are some that pull on like regular underwear but absorb leakage. You can even remove all his other options so he has to wear them or nothing. Good luck!
If the carpet is in the bathroom, remove it scrub the underlayment with bleach, then soak with vinegar, prime the underlayment with oil based paint to seal the wood and prevent the smell from repermiating the room. Lay tile or vinyl flooring in the bathroom, easily cleaned and much more sanitary. If in another room, contact a carpet cleaner, their techs can also get you some info on what to use. The big problem is once it saturates the underlayment of the floor it's pretty hard to totally remove the smell, just like a house with animal issues, humidity and heat will reactivate the smell without sealing which is why even if the carpet is replaced or cleaned, the smell can still come back.
If you want or need the carpet in the bathroom, look into carpet squares that can be removed and replaced or cleaned individually. Many commercial buildings use these and the sizes vary somewhat.
Sorry for confusion. Carpet is in his bedroom not bathroom. He just goes wherever he wants to all over his room. The Depend diapers don’t help because he simply pulls them down like underwear. He is sneaky too. We’ve tried getting him on a schedule. He will refuse to go several times it then the minute we turn our backs he pees in a corner of his room. Anything we put on the floor he picks up!!
Oh boy, you sure have your hands full! It almost sounds like he is doing this to be vindictive and trying to control his own situation doing this when and where he wants. Is he doing this because he's angry about his loss of independence and he's going to "teach" you a lesson? He seems with it enough to pull depends down AND pick up any absorbent pads up off of the floor before urinating which is why I question the defiant actions. Do you have room to store this carpet after professional cleaning (the padding in this area is trash) and the ability to use a waterproof vinyl floor in there instead? They have both sheet ( non glue down, floating) or a floating snap together type that actually comes in some cute patterns. Would he use a freestanding commode if in his room. More work for you as far as clean up but maybe it'll help save your home? Have you tried the you break it you fix it or pay to have it repaired or replaced? Sometimes just the threat of being held accountable changes certain behaviors.
Odormute is an excellent product. It is a powder that you mix with warm water and drench the area. Have used for cat urine odors and works great. Can dump it on carpet or furniture. Before you use a product for odor, you might want to draw excess liquid up with baking soda first.
Odorban will definitely help this problem you can find it at Sam’s club or Amazon or just do a google search for it. It helps with all kinds of odors. You can even put it in a carpet scruber. I have done this and it’s worked fantastic. It can also be used in the rinse cycle in the laundry. It really helps with strong urine smells. You really have to soak the area first or spray it around if it’s a large area let it soak in then with a carpet scruber you can scrub it up. I have even added in the tank of the scruber. It works wonderful. If you read the directions it has many uses. However I do agree with one of the other person’s answer if the urine has been sitting in the carpet it actually grows bacteria in the padding this is why it smells so bad. The carpet needs pulled up and whatever is underneath needs to be fixed sealed and an easier cleaning flooring needs put in. Your going to just cover up the smell with odor ban or whatever your using. It won’t last long. Believe me I know. I had this same thing happened to me with my mom. We had to take the carpet out. It was soooo much better then. It sound like you have your hands full with him. He seems to be doing whatever he wants to. Have you taken him to the doctor? Maybe he has a UTI or something else going on. Sounds like he’s a very stubborn person. I would try talking to him which will probably get you nowhere. Maybe he needs more outside stimulation to get his mind off using the bathroom so much. If his mind is occupied with something else then he won’t think about his bottom half so much. Or take him to the doctor to make sure everything is okay. It seems to me like he constantly thinking about what is going on down there instead of everything else maybe?? Just a thought. Try the Odorban it really does work for a little while anyway. It’s worth the little bit of money. Good luck! I have been there. I understand what you are going through. Your best bet is to pick up the carpet or start by taking him to the doctor just to make sure everything is okay.
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Vinegar may help and someone on the forum mentioned there's a cleaner for this.
If this is a constant battle with Dad, have husband tell him he has to sit down.
It is a pet product. I agree with removing bathroom carpet.
Tips: 1) Put thick drop cloths, blue pads, or bathroom rugs down anywhere he might pee as long as it’s not a tripping hazard. 2) Get a bedside commode and/or urinal (and put a drop cloth or any other option beneath where he will use it). 3) Encourage him to use “thick underwear/boxers”. That’s what we call diapers. There are some that pull on like regular underwear but absorb leakage. You can even remove all his other options so he has to wear them or nothing.
Good luck!
It sound like you have your hands full with him. He seems to be doing whatever he wants to. Have you taken him to the doctor? Maybe he has a UTI or something else going on. Sounds like he’s a very stubborn person. I would try talking to him which will probably get you nowhere. Maybe he needs more outside stimulation to get his mind off using the bathroom so much. If his mind is occupied with something else then he won’t think about his bottom half so much. Or take him to the doctor to make sure everything is okay. It seems to me like he constantly thinking about what is going on down there instead of everything else maybe??
Just a thought. Try the Odorban it really does work for a little while anyway. It’s worth the little bit of money.
Good luck! I have been there. I understand what you are going through. Your best bet is to pick up the carpet or start by taking him to the doctor just to make sure everything is okay.