Son was okay with mom living with daughter up until the point daughter asked for mom's social security check to help pay for mom's expenses. Son was NOT okay with this and sent the police to take mom back. They said he has power of attorney over her so there was nothing they could do. Mom has dimentia but was in her right mind at the time and clearly said she was happy and did NOT want to leave her daughter. She was crying and did not want to go back with her son. He is going to put her in a home because he can no longer care for her but I think this is clearly a case of him wanting to keep her under his control just for HER money. Can the police just come in and kidnap someone because someone else has power of attorney? The police are NOT judges and I think they intimidated the daughter into letting them in the house to round up mom.
But then, logic isn't always a strength in dysfunctional families.
I would also call the board of health on the nursing home for a surprise visit
Where is "home"? Do the doctors think she is OK to live on her own? Actually, if Gramma is in her right mind and if she recovers well from whatever she is in rehab for, would she even qualify to stay in a nursing home?