My grandpa was diagnosed with terminal cancer in November 2018 he didn't want to do any treatment and he wanted to come home to die so I quit my job and me my husband and our 5 kids moved in with him. I'm his POA so everything is all on me now. He was doing great when he got home but the last 3 weeks we have seen I'm get much worse. He has been not in his right mind he has hallucinations and they have become violent. He says he doesn't want to suffer no more and its breaking my heart! He wasn't really eating before and he's lost a lot of weight and no he's not eating or really drinking. He's starting to retain water in his feet. He's on larzpam morphine and fentnal patches. If anyone has gone though this how long did they last, did they suffer???
No one can tell you how long until the suffering is over. Only guesstimate.
May I just say how sorry I am that you and your family are going through this.
Hugs!!
http://www.nationalhospicelocator.com/hospices/illinois
If you already have hospice services, you need to talk to the nurse and/or social worker about the severity of his mental decline; they need to treat that!
((((hugs)))))
Hugs to you. Please call hospice. Tell them you need help.
I’m so sorry.
So, the cancer has metastasized (spread, in normal people talk) to his brain, which is why he's not making sense. Yes, he needs meds WHEN he needs them.
Do you have a 24 hour number you can call if this becomes unbearable? Does he perhaps need to be in a care facility so that you can go back to being the loving granddaughter that you clearly are, and not the hands on caregiver?
Hospice usually will talk with you on phone too. Hospice is not only for grandpa, but for you as well.. So, if you need to talk, then call them. Talking sometimes helps.
Hang in there, you are doing the best you can. I am sorry grandpa is suffering, and I am sorry you are too. It hurts, and it hurts.
Again you have a good heart. You don't want your loved one to pass in pain nor fear. But the end comes for all of us.
Take care of yourself. Peace to you and yours.
Your grandfather is being well cared for, make sure you take care of you, husband, and your children. You're all suffering too and need support.
{hug} to you all. May your grandfather find peace and relief soon.
That oximeter helped me focus on the technicality of the body's functions and gave my heart a break from what was happening.
He will soon pass, and he will be at peace. You will grieve, but know this- you helped your grandpa do exactly what he wanted to do. He wanted to be able to die at home with your help and family around him. You are a wonderful person to do all this for your grandpa.
Please be gentle with yourself.
The cycle of life is never easy, but can be a beautiful time. Your children can learn a great deal of compassion and empathy from this.
Hugs