She is getting up a couple times at night to use the bathroom. Every time I hear the buzzer I want to cry because I can't get back to sleep. I don't want to put her in a diaper because I don't want her to loose the sensation to go but something has got to give.
I know myself I need to pee. To not empty a full bladder means risk of infection or just plain discomfort. Or, if I had a weak sphinctor muscle, I'd wet the bed. Actually, I consider it a blessing that one of the human body's automatic alarm clocks is the full bladder, which sends signals to the brain to wake up. Many people don't even realize it but use their bladders to wake them each morning, and get to work on time. God bless nature, to keep responsible workers showing up each day.
This situation is always a fine line. You want your mom to sleep through the night so you introduce a medication but then if she does wake up in the night she's liable to be groggy and sleepy which can increase her chances of falling. Or she may not get up at all and need her linens changed in the morning. But without the medication you are up and down yourself all night and not getting the rest you need.
Talk to her Dr. I'm sure there's something mild the Dr. can try.
Talk to the Dr see what they say about the oxybutynin NAP when they do !! Again it's like caring for your baby, for those of you that have babies, you did what you had to do then and would never consider walking out and leaving them in a filthy diaper, alone in a bed not knowing what is happening or WHY its happening just that it IS happening. Your entire role is to make them more comfortable, more at ease with that is happening, secure and loved ...
Maybe hire a person to come in from midnight-6. Just to watch/assist the patient.
It does not have to be an aide. Just someone you trust.
We are all in this together.
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