I am an only child, with no other relatives. I have no money, I am really close to being on the street myself. My mother is 75 years old and mentally sick, but refuses to go on medication because of this she is homeless. Her and I have never gotten along, and argue and fight whenever I try to help in the few ways I can.
I feel alone and like a failure. She has been on the street for 10 years now, and I have no idea how to help her. I don’t want her to die on the street, but cannot have her in my life. I live with roommates, and can barely afford rent. I really have no idea what to do. She is in the hospital every other day with pneumonia from sleeping in the car. Its not right, but don’t know what to do.
I just want to add that I fully understand you feeling alone and like a failure, although that is not fair to yourself and not realistic. Just look at the situation objectively, you’ve not created this situation for your mom, on the contrary you are trying to help her any way you can, despite not getting along, despite being rejected. That reads good daughter to me from many angles, believe me.
Aside from the assistance you want to help her obtain, I can assure you that the best thing you can do for your mom is to try to get your own life in order, in every sense; so that you are prepared to never find yourself in the same situation your mother is now.
The second best thing you can do for her is to make an effort to really comprehend that your mom is truly ill and likely facing more mental and emotional challenges than you can imagine. So try not to resent her, it is not fair for either one of you. Also, be more understanding towards yourself, you are not to blame Soni. Life has not been easy and you just kept trying, that includes trying to be a good daughter under very challenging circumstances.
I hope you do find the basic assistance your mom needs, and the peace of mind and heart that you deserve!
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Next time Mom is admitted, have them evaluate her. If what you wrote is found true, she needs to be placed in LTC facility on Medicaid. You can explain that you are financially unable to contribute to her care or to obtain guardianship. She then can become a ward of the state.
Don't back down. Its the Social Workers job to find Mom a place.
I might suggest finding a support group or agency that works for the rights of the mentally ill in your community to try to find resources for them. And, if she consents, maybe, they can help. I would try to learn to not blame yourself though. You can't be responsible for her, if she resists.