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I will be honest here, a disabled person should not be doing caregiving. Its hard at 60+ to care for someone if you have no disabilities. I have friends who were CNAs and retired at 60 because it was just too much.
You are dealing with someone with a Dementia which is too unpredictable. They can no longer reason, comprehend or process. TV and dreams become part of their reality. They are up wandering around in the middle of the night. If Mom has money, place her in a nice AL. If not, have her evaluated for 24/7 care in a Longterm care facility and apply for Medicaid. This desease only worsens. My Mom could no longer bathe herself and needed help dressing and toileting. I prayed everyday please no #2 today.
Caregiving is the hardest job a person will ever do, hands down. I'm not sure the reasoning behind agreeing to let your mom move in with you, especially with all of her issues and yours as well. Since you're early in this, you may want to consider finding mom the appropriate facility for her to move to, so she can get the 24/7 care she needs and you can quit jeopardizing your own health because of her. Your mom would never want you to do that. And you know that things with her will only continue to get worse(it will never be better)and if you're already stressed after only a month, that should tell you that things MUST change and you have to now do what not only is best for your mom, but for you as well. You can still be moms advocate after she's placed, and it will be a whole lot less stress on you. I pray for wisdom and discernment for you as you go forward.
Thank you all for your kind advice. I admire your honesty and thank you all for taking the time respond. I’m blessed to have found you all and this wonderful forum.❤️
Caregiving is extremely hard. But nursing homes are hard also. I have yet to learn of one that provided adequate care and I live in a very large city.
Most are warehouses - they do not provide real care. You switch home care for constant advocating with people who will lie to you and seek retribution if you complain.
If you are already stressed at home, you can also look in to getting home health care.
There is no easy way through caring for someone aging and ill. I wish our country provided more assistance but they do not.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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it seems living happily with one’s elderly parents is quite rare. maybe it’s rare to have sweet, older parents.
in particular, mothers are often terrible with their daughters.
hire people if you can.
hugs!!
hope you’re ok.
remember, that loving parents want you to live your life, blossom, thrive, succeed.
bundle
You are dealing with someone with a Dementia which is too unpredictable. They can no longer reason, comprehend or process. TV and dreams become part of their reality. They are up wandering around in the middle of the night. If Mom has money, place her in a nice AL. If not, have her evaluated for 24/7 care in a Longterm care facility and apply for Medicaid. This desease only worsens. My Mom could no longer bathe herself and needed help dressing and toileting. I prayed everyday please no #2 today.
Since you're early in this, you may want to consider finding mom the appropriate facility for her to move to, so she can get the 24/7 care she needs and you can quit jeopardizing your own health because of her. Your mom would never want you to do that. And you know that things with her will only continue to get worse(it will never be better)and if you're already stressed after only a month, that should tell you that things MUST change and you have to now do what not only is best for your mom, but for you as well.
You can still be moms advocate after she's placed, and it will be a whole lot less stress on you.
I pray for wisdom and discernment for you as you go forward.
Most are warehouses - they do not provide real care. You switch home care for constant advocating with people who will lie to you and seek retribution if you complain.
If you are already stressed at home, you can also look in to getting home health care.
There is no easy way through caring for someone aging and ill. I wish our country provided more assistance but they do not.