There is suposedly a new rule that forbids a resident on a puree diet not be able to have any goodies because one person choked on one. My problem is with this is why should all the residences be punished because of one incident. My mother is 98-yeaars-old. She can hardly see and can't hear. We get her special treats that melt in her mouth. She has been eating these for years. Suddenly, one day everything was thrown away. She looks forward to her treats, that's all she has. She can't watch TV, listen to radio or talk to anybody. The only thing she has to look forward to are her goodies. We would take full responsibility. Can they put it in writing so she can have her goodies when we come and visit.
So my suggestion is that when you go and visit, bring your goodies. However, she will not get them if you are not there (and will be tossed if you leave them).
That may sound like a dumb or cruel question. I ask as I have seen a relative feed their LO (on puree diet) a sandwich they could not chew or swallow. Reason: relative felt they were being starved. Result: aspirated.
It had been suggested that relative talk to the Dietician to understand the situation better.
While your situation seems quite different, I wonder if there was a Dietician on staff you could discuss with? Find a safe way to have Mom get her treat food.
It is good that you realize you would have to take on full responsibility . I hope you can make this arrangement , so your Mom can have her treats IF MOM ASKS FOR TREATS . Good luck .
The facility cannot legally provide. It isn't a matter of you/r family taking full responsibility for what rules the facility must follow.
You can. Just don't say anything to staff.
Ask volunteer(s) to visit and give her a melted-like candy for her enjoyment.
Gena / Touch Matters
Tell the director of the facility to do five minutes of actual work and have their legal department make up this document so you can give your LO their treat again.
For some assisted livings, they have a "residents council" and/or a "family council". IF so, in those groups new rules can be brought up for discussion and if a number of residents or family have issue with the rule, then it can be brought up to management to reconsider.
If there is no council, even then some concerns can be brought up to management.
I suppose this is one "downside" to facilities where you do have to follow rules, compared to being at home with family caregivers where you can do more of what you want....