My step daughter is insisting her Dad cosign for a vehicle for her. He's told her no. She went to the dealership, called him and had him speak with the dealer. That fell through. She didn't give up, today, she had another lender calling him for information. He told the lender he could not be responsible for her if she failed to pay. It still may go through. Isn't it too soon for him to be making these type of decisions? Also, he's gotten nervous, began to shake, I fear for his health, he's still mending from the first stroke.
This sounds like someone not to be trusted at all.
It also sounds like he can not handle the stress of these calls and dealing with her. I would not take her calls id she continues this way.
If nothing else would it frighten her back into reality if you told her that you would report her for attempting financial elder abuse? If you have an Elder Care Attorney you could bring this up with the lawyer. (If you don't have an Elder Care Attorney you might want to consult with one for a variety of reasons)
Had he made her a promise about the vehicle that she had relied on in good faith, or anything like that? Otherwise her persistence is unforgivable.
OLD ENOUGH TO PAY FOR IT!
You are doing a good job of caring for this man, and I hope you feel perfectly comfortable.
Frankly, I don’t even know if it would be legal.what she want CERTAINLY IS NOT MORAL.
Hope he continues to take care of himself, rest and do what his doctors tell him to do, and IGNORE SELFISH REQUESTS.
Please take good care of yourself, too.
Louis is under no obligation to answer his daughter's calls. When she calls, he could text back "No, I am not cosigning a vehicle" and leave it at that.
I would have a chat with Louis about establishing healthy boundaries with this daughter. Explain that you see he's nervous and shakes. Ask him to consider letting her calls go to voicemail.
Is the girl's mother around? Might you have a woman-to-woman chat with her mother to bring this girl around to reality?
His answer is no. You may want to tell her that she is upsetting Dad and needs to let it go.