They have a bedbug infestation I've tried to take care of for over a year but failed because I'm in another state and didn't know the pest control company was taking me for my money. My mother doesn't seem to care about the bugs. My parents need to have supervision but will not allow anyone to take them from their home or come into the home to help! I feel completely helpless! My mother has dementia but my father seems to be well mentally but will not bathe and cannot walk. My brother has been in their home for years but is an alcoholic on disability so when his money is gone they are paying for the beer. I don't know where to start legally to help them, can anybody help guide me?
I expect your mother is as fed up with being dined on as any other person would be; but when you have tried and failed to get rid of pests it's more despair than not caring.
Your father has a lot on his plate. I expect that clearing their home, selling it, moving, helping your brother make new plans all seems like an impossibly big project and he just can't cope with the thought of it.
As well as finding support for them where they are, what research have you done into options for their future accommodation and care?
I suspect you will shortly get several pages of replies telling you not to move them into your home! What facilities or communities are available near you or any of your parents' other children, have you got as far as looking?
APS seems to me to be the appropriate agency to get involved.
This kind of helpless feeling is terrible! I hope you find at least partial solutions, such as ridding the house of bedbugs.
The county health department might become involved b/c of the bedbug situation. It's detrimental to your parents' health, and the county may have jurisdiction to come in and clean up the bug situation, hiring its own contractor.
I would also report the bed bug contractor. I'm assuming that chemicals were used and that companies using dangerous chemicals need to be licensed.