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I had these same thoughts when I would visit my Mom toward the last months of her life. She was so tiny, helpless, and to me seemed lost.
My husband gave me his opinion which helped a lot. Hubby pointed out to me that Mom had long forgotten my home, who I was, and If I brought Mom to our home how could I hold up for any length of time.
Hubby pointed out that Mom was being well taken care of by NH staff and Hospice in a familiar environment. Hubby asked if I was considering this decision based on what was best for Mom or my emotions that occurred when I visited Mom.
In my case Hubby was right. I hate when that happens. ;)
Tinabeck, so sorry about your Mother. As to whether she can come home for her final days, you may want to ask your Mom's nursing home doctor is he/she thinks that is a good idea.
As for it being realistic, it depends on your Mom's Alzheimer's/dementia [per your profile] and what type of care she needed. Hospice can order a hospital bed and other equipment that your Mom may need. Is the family ready to do around the clock care?
Has someone told you that your mother has only days/weeks to live?
How will you transport her? Once my mom was given days to live, transporting her anywhere would have been cruel. In fact, we turned down Hospices fancy air mattress because she already had one and getting her out of bed would have caused pain and possibly agitation.
Who will care for her at home? Does she or you have the resources to fund 24/7 care. She will need to be repositioned every 2 hoirs.
Are you able to administer morphine? I don't think I would have been able to muster the courage to do that.
You need to weigh the benefits against the downside. I'm so sorry you have to make this painful choice.
If you are picturing around the clock support from a hospice provider you won't find it, are you prepared to do this on your own - feeding, bathing, toileting, medication, re-positioning and all the rest? I know of a family who did this, but two of her daughters were RNs and they still had to hire a care provider from out of the area where they lived to find service providers that could give them the kind of support they needed.
Tina I'm sorry you're going through this. Do what you think would be best for your mom. If she stays and passes in the NH, know that they would want her removed in less than 24 hours.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I had these same thoughts when I would visit my Mom toward the last months of her life. She was so tiny, helpless, and to me seemed lost.
My husband gave me his opinion which helped a lot. Hubby pointed out to me that Mom had long forgotten my home, who I was, and If I brought Mom to our home how could I hold up for any length of time.
Hubby pointed out that Mom was being well taken care of by NH staff and Hospice in a familiar environment. Hubby asked if I was considering this decision based on what was best for Mom or my emotions that occurred when I visited Mom.
In my case Hubby was right. I hate when that happens. ;)
As for it being realistic, it depends on your Mom's Alzheimer's/dementia [per your profile] and what type of care she needed. Hospice can order a hospital bed and other equipment that your Mom may need. Is the family ready to do around the clock care?
How will you transport her? Once my mom was given days to live, transporting her anywhere would have been cruel. In fact, we turned down Hospices fancy air mattress because she already had one and getting her out of bed would have caused pain and possibly agitation.
Who will care for her at home? Does she or you have the resources to fund 24/7 care. She will need to be repositioned every 2 hoirs.
Are you able to administer morphine? I don't think I would have been able to muster the courage to do that.
You need to weigh the benefits against the downside. I'm so sorry you have to make this painful choice.