My mother was 98. I cared for her for more than ten years. All this is crippling. On top of it all my brother didn't wait one day, on the very day of the funeral he started talking about his plans to clear out and sell the house mom and I lived in for all these years. He never cared for her for one day. I am filled with sorrow, guilt, and now anger.
I am sorry for your loss, one day at a time. After 10 years it will take time for you to find your new normal.
Hugs!
Who is Executor? Because nothing can be done until the estate is probated. I agree, u may want to get a lawyer to protect ur interest since the home has been urs too.