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"Im married been with husband who has stage 4 cancer for 19 years. An have had to recently move 4 hours away from him to live with and take care of UNGRATEFUL NARCISSISTIC LIFE LONG ABUSIVE MOTHER"
Your mom is only 64 years old.
I agree with Gladimhere. Go home to your sick husband. He is the priority over your mother. Also, consider getting counseling for yourself since it appears you may have an unhealthy, co-dependent relationship with your mother.
Not to keep repeating what has been said but maybe you need to hear it from more than 2 people. GO HOME!!!! It is your husband that needs your care, your support. NOT your mother. Your mother is young and if she has a problem with dry skin she can seek a dermatologist that will help her. It is obvious that over the counter creams, ointments do not work she needs to seek medical advice. If she chooses not to see a doctor for this that is on her not you. She is an adult and can make her own decisions. If she does need more help than you indicate then SHE can hire caregivers or seek out an Assisted Living facility that will meet her needs. But YOU need to return to your first priority and that is your husband.
Your mother is young, do you mind telling us why she needs a full time caregiver?
Unless her prognosis is monumentally worse than your husband's (is she on Hospice?) then I agree with the others, HE needs you more and your first obligation is to him, mom will have to find other caregivers or move to an appropriate facility.
You describe your mother as an ungrateful narcissistic lifelong abuser. Why on earth would you pack up your life and leave your very ill husband behind to go and become a caregiver to someone like this? She is not old. If she has dementia (which can happen with younger people) find a nursing home/memory care/ AL facility for her to be placed in. If she doesn't, then make an appointment for her with a dermatologist and go back home to your husband who really needs you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
"Im married been with husband who has stage 4 cancer for 19 years.
An have had to recently move 4 hours away from him to live with and take care of UNGRATEFUL NARCISSISTIC LIFE LONG ABUSIVE MOTHER"
Your mom is only 64 years old.
I agree with Gladimhere. Go home to your sick husband. He is the priority over your mother. Also, consider getting counseling for yourself since it appears you may have an unhealthy, co-dependent relationship with your mother.
GO HOME!!!!
It is your husband that needs your care, your support.
NOT your mother.
Your mother is young and if she has a problem with dry skin she can seek a dermatologist that will help her. It is obvious that over the counter creams, ointments do not work she needs to seek medical advice. If she chooses not to see a doctor for this that is on her not you. She is an adult and can make her own decisions.
If she does need more help than you indicate then SHE can hire caregivers or seek out an Assisted Living facility that will meet her needs.
But YOU need to return to your first priority and that is your husband.
Unless her prognosis is monumentally worse than your husband's (is she on Hospice?) then I agree with the others, HE needs you more and your first obligation is to him, mom will have to find other caregivers or move to an appropriate facility.
She is not old. If she has dementia (which can happen with younger people) find a nursing home/memory care/ AL facility for her to be placed in.
If she doesn't, then make an appointment for her with a dermatologist and go back home to your husband who really needs you.
On her next post she mentions Mom has given Aunt POA. I told her on that post to go home. Husband is her priority.