My mom keeps dropping her cigarettes and I am afraid she is going to start a fire!
I want to move out SO bad but now that I have a real boyfriend that has suddenly become more possible
My brother is tired of me talking about love and my boyfriend and guess what?
I'm tired of HIM!
The only thing I have to comfort myself is the cartoon "SpongeBob SquarePants"
How do I cope with this?
And if you have a boyfriend from jail and are going to get married - please stop! He is likely using you and you will be seriously hurt from this situation. Don't move from problems with your mom to problems with a man. Huge mistake. You need to be on your own.
You have posted in the past, and if I remember correctly, your culture dictates that you care for your mom.
What does your new boyfriend think about having to care for your mom for the rest of his life if he stays with you? I think that would scare many a grown man away for sure.
You don't ever seem to take any of the advice given on here, so not sure why you keep asking for our help.
Until you and your brother move out and mom moves into an assisted living facility nothing will ever change. Period.
Oh Lord! I just saw your last post where you say that once your boyfriend gets out of prison you're going to marry him. My guess is that nothing you've ever written is real and that you perhaps come on here just for fun and because you're bored.
And if what you write is real, how very sad that you are willing to settle for a criminal just to get out of your moms house.
Please get yourself some good therapy as you my dear have more issues than any of us on here can help you with.
She is reaching out for help and you may have closed that door she so needs to reach throug with your snarky remarks. Have a little compassion.
I hope, sincerely that you're joking about SpongeBob,. If FT caregiving doesn't turn your brain to mush, that show won't help.
You really want things to change? The GET OUT of the house, minimally, get mom some alternative care during the day and get out and go to school (if you have no formal training for anything--time to start!) Do NOT lean on a BF for anything but a shoulder to cry on--and even that? Gets old real fast. My DH didn't want to hear one word about my issues with my mom--it's not that he didn't CARE--he just couldn't DO anything.
You need to be a whole person on your own before jumping into a relationship that sounds kind of like your only escape---and even then, if you and BF want to live together or get married, your mom is a huge stumbling block.
Did I read correctly that your BF is in Prison????????????? Huge, Huge HUGE red flag. You ever watch 'Love after Lockup?' (it's a piece of trash show that follows inmates as they search for love either as an inmate or a someone who's waiting for them outside.)
Not surprisingly, it NEVER works out. NEVER. Please think better of yourself and try to get out of this CG nightmare so you can have a semblance of a life.
Call Fire Brigade straight away if your house catches fire..
My 2c of advice.
Put more ashtrays around the house?
Hide mom's cigarettes?
Move out?
Oh, keep a fire extinguisher nearby.
Hope life gets better for you.
Really, a job should have come before a bf.
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