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I have tears in my eyes reading your response to Needhelp. Your Mom was very blessed. I am so glad you have your faith. Seems to have gotten you through all the years of caregiving you did for Mom. And because of your faith you know that Mom is now whole and pain free.
My Mom passed in 2017 and I stayed with the group hoping I can help someone else get through their Caregiving journey. Please stay and share your experiences caring for your Mom. You may help someone else.
Yes, faith has brought both her and me a long way through our journey together here on earth. I'm sorry your Mom passed, also. Yes, it sure does help to know she is no longer in painful agony and now is clear thinking again with a new spiritual body in heaven. When she as in the hospital, sometimes she would be calling for her Mom, whom she always called 'Mother'. She would be calling out "Mother" over and over. She told me that her Mother and her Sister (Sister passed 2 years ago) came to see her. It was real to her and for all I know it was real, regardless. She also told me that she saw my Daddy. I asked her to tell him hello for me and she said, "You can tell him, yourself....Isn't he TALL!???" (Daddy was 6'2" tall) She said it like she was seeing him in that moment in her hospital room with us. Thank you for your very appreciated comment to me. Take care and have a blessed day. Love, Maria in S.C.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It is so very obvious how much that you loved your mom. I am sorry for your loss. I am sure that you will miss her. You are grieving. Don’t hesitate to seek grief counseling if needed or participate in a group for grief support.
I wish you all the peace and joy in the world. You certainly deserve it! You sacrificed so many years of your life caring for your mom. You don’t sound bitter. You must have been exhausted most of the time.
I believe that your mom is at peace now and would certainly want you to be at peace too.
It is sad that you lost your dad at such a young age and that you took on the huge responsibility of caring for your mom. You weren’t able to have a normal childhood. I am so very sorry that your siblings didn’t help you. It’s tough to be the primary caregiver for someone.
My mom also had Parkinson’s disease and died recently in a hospice house. It’s very painful to watch a parent decline with this condition.
Make the most of your life now. Take care of yourself. You have paid your dues!
May the Lord bless you for your encouragement to me this morning. I had tears in my eyes as I read your comforting words to me...words I have greatly needed to hear. Thank you so much. I am sorry that your Mama also had Parkinson's disease and died recently in a hospice house. Mama was given the choice of going to a hospice house or back to the nursing home where she's lived for the past 12 years and even though she knew it would only be window visits again for us, she chose the nursing home because the people there were familiar to her, she said was the reason. So I was not with her when she passed that morning 4 days after returning to the nursing home from spending 10 days in the hospital and I was told outside on the front porch where she and I used to spend time together at the NH, that she'd passed a few minutes before I arrived with her bag of food on Sunday morning 3 weeks ago. Miraculously, they allowed me to spend time with her in her room after she passed (no roommate), after doing temp check (and I always wear a mask), although it was strictly forbidden for the past 15 months during this pandemic, when she was still alive here on earth, thus the window visits during all that time. But still, I am thankful, having been blessed by our Lord to spend 10 days with her in the hospital, even though she was suffering greatly and I spoon fed her what little she was able to take in and I went to the hospital gift shop and bought her a new shirt and bought her and myself identical beautiful necklaces and that made her very happy and put a smile on her face, and I put the necklace on her and it was still on her when I saw her in her room at the NH after she'd just passed. I requested to the funeral home director that the necklace not be removed from her and that she be buried with it on, so at her funeral, she and I both had on our identical necklaces, which she was buried with hers on. I don't know why I'm telling you all of this but thank you so much for your kindness and time. I hope you have a very blessed day. Love, Maria in South Carolina
Maria, This is so touching what you have said about your caregiving for your mother. Since she is so much a part of your life, you will keep her close always in all you do. Go live, be strong and creative in the world. We need more of you.
Thank you. That is so sweet of you to say that. I appreciate it. I am thinking of taking a big trip (haven't in years) to the mountains and visit my cousins soon. Have a very blessed day and thank you very much again. Love, Maria in SC
Your mama is now rejoicing with the angels, and has no more sickness or disease. What a blessing for her, but now you have to learn how to do this life without her. It won't be easy, but over time you will adjust. There is a support group for those grieving the loss of a loved one, called Grief Share. You can "Google" to see where one is in your community. A lot of their meetings are still on Zoom right now, because of Covid, but they can be very helpful. You can also share and ask us questions on this forum, as many of us have already lost the loved ones we were caring for as well. I pray that God will give you His peace and comfort in the days and weeks ahead.
Thank you. I did look this up but there are no meetings anywhere near the area I am in. Yes, it is quite an adjustment but I know the Lord is helping me. No, it surely is not easy at all. Smile. I hope you have a blessed day. Thank you for your comment to me. Love, Maria in SC
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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My Mom passed in 2017 and I stayed with the group hoping I can help someone else get through their Caregiving journey. Please stay and share your experiences caring for your Mom. You may help someone else.
Thank you for your very appreciated comment to me. Take care and have a blessed day. Love, Maria in S.C.
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And welcome.
Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It is so very obvious how much that you loved your mom. I am sorry for your loss. I am sure that you will miss her. You are grieving. Don’t hesitate to seek grief counseling if needed or participate in a group for grief support.
I wish you all the peace and joy in the world. You certainly deserve it! You sacrificed so many years of your life caring for your mom. You don’t sound bitter. You must have been exhausted most of the time.
I believe that your mom is at peace now and would certainly want you to be at peace too.
It is sad that you lost your dad at such a young age and that you took on the huge responsibility of caring for your mom. You weren’t able to have a normal childhood. I am so very sorry that your siblings didn’t help you. It’s tough to be the primary caregiver for someone.
My mom also had Parkinson’s disease and died recently in a hospice house. It’s very painful to watch a parent decline with this condition.
Make the most of your life now. Take care of yourself. You have paid your dues!
So sorry for your loss. Please share whatever you would like to.
There are a lot of compassionate people here who can reach out to help you. Please feel free to share your concerns.
There is a support group for those grieving the loss of a loved one, called Grief Share. You can "Google" to see where one is in your community. A lot of their meetings are still on Zoom right now, because of Covid, but they can be very helpful.
You can also share and ask us questions on this forum, as many of us have already lost the loved ones we were caring for as well.
I pray that God will give you His peace and comfort in the days and weeks ahead.