My boyfriend, 70 years died from Cancer (last diagnosed, Brain Cancer). While in Hospice his brother flew in from NC obtained POA to handle cars, etc. He lied to me, used me for information, handed $500 to me, took my love and all things which I believe belonged to the both of one or another, gave me a nonworking car pretended we would be in touch. Once things become clearer, so now he ignores my request of items and $1500. I've been soley of soul love with my man until the end when they left to the airport. We did not live together, however we were together everyday till no more. I'm in NJ and his brother is in NC. Can he deny me like this? Just vanished and lied .
In regards to the theft; I think you need to contact a lawyer to see what sort of right you have to the money and belongings. Did your boyfriend have a will?
Curious how long were you and your boyfriend together as a regular item? What items of yours were at his home since you didn't live with him. I assume his brother cleared out his brother's home.
Was your boyfriend's brother the Executor of his Will? Or was there a Will? Did your name appear in the Will? Is the Will in Probate in New Jersey?
You mentioned "they left for the airport". Who else from the family was there?
I realize this is tough for you, as you are grieving. State Laws are different when it comes to someone not being married to a sig other compared to being lawfully married.
So now i assume he blocked my calls and he does not reach out . Its been since October.
He fooled and i really cant believe it, he was very nice and cordial towards me.
I really dont know him well, we spoke on the phone frequently because again i was together with my Love everyday , so if my Love called i was there to say hi. I am not mad at his brother, i actually feel sorry for his ways..i thinks its shameful.
I was no baggage handler , i loaded things in those cars and alot of things there i am the reason its there. Its like all of a sudden these interest is now his intrust?? FOR SHAME.
SO , going to a Probate court is the answer?
I cant do all.
If the brother isn’t taking your calls write him a letter asking if you both can meet or something to discuss your BF’ property as he probably doesn’t know what you & BF planned.
Be polite the first time as he may be grieving too.
If he doesn’t respond I would get yourself an attorney. You mention probate, does that mean there was a will but it hasn’t been settled yet?
If the will didn’t specify what was to go to you and only a verbal agreement between you & your BF, it may be that you won’t receive anything, so be prepared. Hopefully your BF made a will when he was first diagnosed.
Good luck!
But, unfortunately, even though you say you had a great love between you and your boyfriend, unless he detailed specifically what things you were supposed to get and wrote them in a will, you’re probably out of luck. If his brother lives out of state and had to take time out of his life to come down and handle his stuff, he probably wanted to get it done as soon as possible and then go back to his own life. He may even have gotten complaints filed against him by the city for the property and things collected on it that you might not know anything about.
I hope that this all works out for you and you get back at least a few things you treasure.