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We moved in with our single daughter (owns her home) to help us all financially. My husband and I live on SS. He has early Alzheimer's and no assets, I have a 401k from an old job. Can they touch my 401k? I get mixed answers to this question. If I need a nursing home or Medicaid can they touch my 401k? Our daughter has some stock that she did not purchase, but was given to her over the years from her large employer. Can anyone touch the stock?

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Your daughter's assets (her home and her stock) are her's assuming they are in her name and tied to her SS#. She does need to make sure IF she is the one to take dad to an ER or hospital or any other facility that she does not ever sign her name as being financially responsible for his bill. If she is DPOA or MPOA, then she signs whatever as "Jane Smith in her limited capacity as DPOA for John Jones" or she signs it as John Jones.

Your situation is different.....if your DH needs to go into a NH and you don't then you become the "community spouse" for a Medicaid application. A community spouse situation is very very different that for a widow/er who applies for Medicaid. Each state manages Medicaid under their state specific rules but under an overall federal umbrella. So realistically you need to speak to an elder law attorney who is in your state so that whatever you do, or don't do, works within your states framework. Oh and community doesn't refer to community property, rather it refers to being in the community, living in the community....

For CS it is really important to understand the difference in "income" and "assets" for Medicaid and how they dovetail when there is a CS. Also it's super important to be realistic on what you anticipate your needs and lifetime to be. Yeah, it's a hard subject but you have to do this. If you are a younger and healthy 2nd or 3rd wife, then you are likely to outlive him and you will need as much income and assets to enable you to do this. If you all are about the same age but you are healthy, it's much the same but you need to think about needing to pay for NH much sooner and how it could be done.

For CS it is really important that if $ needs to be moved or spent, that it all be done BEFORE and clear through the bank BEFORE you apply for Medicaid. CS does a "snapshot" day based on the day of application or day 1 of NH admission and all the $ is benchmarked & fixed based on that day. This is super critical.

In general, for CS the state does not expect you to impoverish yourself. You are allowed to keep a certain amount of "assets" to enable you to remain in the community. However, some assets are joint assets - your 401K would probably be considered a joint asset and would have to be spent down to whatever your state has as the maximum asset for a CS. CS have a formula - CSRA - community spouse resource allocation (or allowance) that varies by the state. Most states have the CSRA at 109K but other states have it at much, much lower. Really you need an experienced attorney because you don't want to make a costly and irreversable mistake.

There are some things that are easily done if you are over the limit. Like you are allowed 1 car. So if you or your daughter will be driving for the near future, then buy a nice dependable new car in your name. Alot of couples have 2 cars and then turn both in and get a new one & pay cash. Also buy preneed funeral and burial for both you and your DH. If either of you need dental work, do that as it is expensive and rarely paid for by Medicaid. For my mom, we spend down over 20K in dental alone.New eyeglasses and hearing aids are another good spend down. Ditto for tricked out walkers or wheelchairs as Medicaid's ones are super minimal.

It is good that you are thinking about this now and before you are in a panic mode and need NH placement for your DH. Involve you daughter in the discussion along with your DH too. Good luck and keep a sense of humor in all this if you can.
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I'd say Igloo covered it for you. You need to go to an lawyer for the best plan and it is money well spent. No second guessing amount of save assets, your income and assets are I believe considered as one, and they go back five years tracking where money went. The lawyer will cover your buttocks.
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Medicaid....thieves
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I think you need to see a good elder care lawyer to protect your assets. Unfortunately, if you go on Medicaid to pay for the nursing home you will be required to spend down the assets. While they claim the surviving spouse should not be impoverished, most are. Medicaid ..thieves not really the point. We don't want to provide paid end of life care for our citizens whether in nursing home or with home health aides. The price we pay as we cling to our unrealistic view that we are individually responsible for our own care to our grave. We can't blame Medicaid which is a medical insurance program for the very poor. Many loud mouthed congress people rail against even this program---for all of these people so against helping the frail elderly I wish that they could do a month as a primary caregiver for their loved one. They couldn't and wouldn't do it. Most of them never had to rely on social security as their sole form of income. Another program they think needs to be cut or eliminated. They are really clueless.

Good luck get the advice of the elder care lawyer but be prepared for all the restrictions once Medicaid is in the game.

Elzabeth
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hey medicaid......shove it where the 'sun don't shine'.....lol
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There are places in the world today where there is nothing like Medicaid for anyone and the average lifespan is in the 30's still.
I don't like the system, but it is better than some. I have a friend whose husband needed to be cared for in a NH and they took her retirement to pay.
Seemed unfair to me. But I guess I will have to divorce the old guy if it gets to that.
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Absolutely see an elder care lawyer after you have made a list of your assets and income. In MD, when my dad was in a nursing facility costing $13K a month and my mom was a community spouse, she was "allowed" to keep $109,000 in cash assets, the house, a car, and pre-paid funeral. That was all. The the rest of "community property" including her IRAs if necessary, would have to be "spent down" til Dad reached the $2500 Medicaid max in assets (or whatever it was at the time) and mom had no more than the above assets. If your 401K has less than $109,000 or whatever the Medicaid limit is, then perhaps you are ok, and do not have to spend it on his care. Have an elder care attorney assess your situation asap. Start collecting bank statements and have good records going 5 years back if you need to apply for a Medicaid NH bed for your husband.
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Skinonna brings up an option. Why don't spouses just get divorced to preserve assets? Doesn't mean they love each other any less. And spouses who have been married more than 10 yrs can still collect ss benefits of the other spouse.
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Currently, the at-home spouse can protect (i.e., exempt) up to $115,920 of the total amount of assets of you and your spouse. However, in many states the 401(k) or IRA of the at-home spouse is exempt regardless of amount. So that would be the first thing to determine, i.e., what the rule is for your particular state. If you cannot find the answer online, you will need to contact an elder law attorney with expertise in this area to assist you (probably a good idea in any case).

As for your daughter's stock, under Medicaid rules a child's assets are never subject to claims by the state and never come into the picture at all when a parent's eligibility is determined.
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Heiser ? for you....does the 401K for the community spouse need to be put into a Medicaid compliant SPIA in order for it NOT to be counted?
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To igloo: In those states that exempt the at-home spouse's retirement accounts, it would not have to be converted into a Medicaid annuity. In states that do not exempt those, it may well be a good option to do that!
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I agree with the idea of divorcing. It is difficult enough living on what we have to live on once retired then to have everything that you worked for taken away...it is just sad!
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We're already considering divorce for financial reasons....it's tempting!
UNfortunately, being divorced also means the partner, no longer legally married to the Ex, loses access, or can lose access, to being part of that Ex's medical and other life decisions. They can be completely cut out of the Ex's remaining life, depending on who then takes control of the Ex's estate and health cases. ANYONE who can present a rational case, could enter the picture, and take over everything, cutting the Ex out of the person's affairs---even if the ailing person has marginal dementia, or if they are partially impaired---OFTEN new legal documents get drawn up, signed by a heavily assisted elder, which cut out the previous person--especially if there is any estate of significance.

Being legally married means other family members and friends take second place, to the legal spouse governing estates, finances and care of their legal spouse--unless there is some legal, really good reason to get the married partner barred from being the primary--which can be hard to do.

When taking care of Mom and her DH,
we learned Medicaid allowed the 2 of them $40K in assets and they could still get aid,
but once he died, Mom was only allowed $2000 in assets in order to get any assistance [WA]....
HOW they figured a surviving spouse should only have such a vast amount less in assets, was baffling.
WORSE, other agencies and lawyers setting up estates, apparently use those same kinds of figures.

Other points not seen above:
DSHS/medicaid has a 5-year look-back--- If you were to protect assets, they need to have been handled more than 5 years previous to need for DSHS/Medicaid assistance.
IF you have more than about $1500 per month income, or/and money in the bank beyond a couple thousand, you don't need assistance to pay the Medicare premiums, and, you can afford to pay for help or pay premiums for insurance to handle providing for helps or Care facilities--at least until you have spent down the assets.
Yep, spouses assets are counted.
Yep, even if you just got divorced, they will look at what assets the spouse took with them, if it's less than 5 years ago.
Yep, sometimes adult children's assets are counted when it comes to reimbursing State for their aid to the elder.
Laws for reimbursing vary per State; some States mandate families must repay the State for expenses caring for their elder...
BUT, most do not pursue that as, they do not want to impoverish families, and end up paying Aid to them, too.
BUT, if the family members have assets they could have afforded to spend caring for the elder, the State will likely try to recoop it's losses from those family members --like your daughter, if her assets cannot be shown as needed for her, to prevent her becoming a State Aid case herself.
If property, business and other assets can be shown to be the sole income for the other family members, the State will probly back off...

You need legal help to get it all straightened out according to the rules in your State!
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Listen to Attorney Heiser he has good information. A friend of mine was told by her daughter who was an attorney and her son in law who was also an attorney, that she needed to divorce her husband so she would not be liable for his medical bills. It seems however that their advice may have been a ploy as when he died, the daughter got everything and never shared it with anyone, including her mother! Go see an attorney...
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In the State of Florida "Qualified Plans", such as IRA's and 401k's, are considered exempt assets with respect to Medicaid Institutional Care Program qualification as long as the principal is in distribution.

By law, Required Minimum Distributions must commence by April 1st the year after the owner turns 70 1/2. This means that in all likelihood you are currently taking distributions and the 401k principal is not a countable asset. It will be required, however, that the distributions be taken monthly.

You DO NOT have to purchase a single premium immediate annuity!
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Rules differ per State.
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I do not know the answer to the legal questions. However in NYS if you need to enter a nh immediately you will be placed in the first available bed in your area and it may not be the nh of your choice. If you have the funds place your loved on in a nice nh of your choice and pay for 6 months. Not only does this spend down some of your assets but Medicaid can't move you to a less desirable nh.
For financial reasons many NHs prefer private pay because they receive more money that way.
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Will i have to spend my 401k to pay for nursing home care before medicade pay state of fl
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