Would it give my mom a set-back to move her from the nursing home they were in together? Dad died two weeks ago,mom has alheimers She is 60 miles away. We went to see them everyday but this is unrealistic when we have a nice nursing home within 10 minutes of us. My sister thinks we should leave her alone even though we know no one in that town. It was an "authority kick" was the only reason they ever were placed there. Now my sister thinks we would set her back to move her close to us.Being practical, no one can keep driving that far everyday especially back roads and no phone service. Would moving her really "shut her down" or can an alheimers patient adjust. She really does not concept dad has died even though we told her. Her mind just keeps wandering where he is. Are we making things worse to move her closer? Very Concerned!
It's been about a month now and things have improved, I'm sure your Mom would be ok if you move her, it just takes a bit of time--good luck
If she wasn't aware her husband was gone until you told her, is the change in nursing homes going to make a difference? When you're dealing with someone whose memories are eroding and who is becoming detached from what's happening all around him/her what was familiar on Tuesday is probably unrecognizable a few days later.
Since you're the closest to her, go ahead and move her dear. But make sure you visit regularly to make the transition a little smoother; and so she can continue to have, in you, a constant point of reference.
My heart, and my thoughts, will be with you. Let us know what happens.
-- ED
First, I think that you and your sister (and any other siblings) should be making this decision jointly. Does your sister live in the same town as you? If not, are you willing to take on the responsibility for her care fulltime? (not sure what an "authority kick" is...but your sister should not be making these important decisions for you.)
From your note, it sounds like you have a good alternative home for her nearby. From the little I know about Alz. I do not think that she would be adversely affected. Everyone, regardless of age, has to take some time to adjust to new surroundings.
good luck