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You want to bring her home. The questions are, what does mom want, what kind of care does she require and can you assure your cousin that mom will be better off at home, and that providing what she needs will be within mom's means?
You quit your job so that you can care for your mom.
How are you going to support yourself? Is mom going to pay you for caring for her? Does the person who is POA agree to that? Does mom has the funds to pay for your to caregive, and for two more shifts of folks to caregive? If she's in a Nursing Home, by definition, her level of "need of care" is for three shifts of caregivers. You are one person.
How are you going to support yourself after you mom dies?
Is she in assisted living or in a nursing home? I'm confused after reading your profile. You are aware that at some point someone with Alzheimer's/dementia reaches a point where more than one person is required for their care? What is your plan for that? How will you support yourself and tend to your own need for health insurance without the income from a job? I think all of this needed to be worked out before you quit your job.
This question is very similar to one asked earlier which included a question about the police being called if you took your mother out of the nursing home.
Before you get into this, learn a little about what it means. I'm sorry you quit your job so quickly, since you don't know yet if she will come home. Would it be possible to get your job back at least until you figure it out?
You need to go into this with your eyes wide open, knowing what you are getting into. Your mother will need stability. If she has dementia, she'll need someone with her a good part of the time. As the disease progresses, she'll need someone with her all the time. Read a bit about dementia and see if you think it will be something you can handle. Dementia can be both physically and emotionally difficult to handle.
Weigh the care you can give to that she is receiving in the facility. Which would be better? I would base my decision on that and not that you and your mother want to live in the house again. The house can become like a jail for both of you as the disease progresses.
Dementia care gets harder and harder as time goes on. I live with my grandma who has dementia but I'm lucky in that my dad works and cares for both of us. It's a struggle still at times too even with grandma using food stamps for her own bills and paying dad rent which he then pays to me for my expenses. My dad pays for food for myself and the house is paid for already. It's still a struggle.
This doesn't even touch the dementia itself. I was going to go on and on about their care but decided that really all you need to think about is the fact that for 24/7 this person who is used to that kind of care and probably requires it, will be requiring you to be availability. Sleeping will be a luxury. It's like a toddler that never grows up and instead sometimes gets worse over time. It's like reliving the terrible 2's forever. At least that's my experience of it. Are you ready to take that on?
I'm sorry you quit your job so quickly. I wish in some ways you had kept your job and your ability to live and instead tried to get support from the state set up so that you could keep a job or some kind and still care for her. Depending on what stage your mother is in, sleeping could be difficult for her and also for you. She probably has had help going to the bathroom, bathing, dressing, eating, drinking, and even getting to sleep. Often times dementia patients make their own sleeping schedule which causes it to be hard.
Just make sure you know what you are getting into before bringing someone home from a care facility. Caregiving is no easy tasks and basically results in you giving up your life for whoever you are caring for.
Mannye, your Mom is in a Nursing Home for a reason, she needs a village to take care of her.
Is Mom asking to "go home"? Please note when an elder who has memory issues says they want to go home, they want to go back to their childhood home where everything was simple, easy, and fun being a child.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
What is Mom's mental state? Can she revoke the POA?
How are you going to support yourself? Is mom going to pay you for caring for her? Does the person who is POA agree to that? Does mom has the funds to pay for your to caregive, and for two more shifts of folks to caregive? If she's in a Nursing Home, by definition, her level of "need of care" is for three shifts of caregivers. You are one person.
How are you going to support yourself after you mom dies?
This question is very similar to one asked earlier which included a question about the police being called if you took your mother out of the nursing home.
You need to go into this with your eyes wide open, knowing what you are getting into. Your mother will need stability. If she has dementia, she'll need someone with her a good part of the time. As the disease progresses, she'll need someone with her all the time. Read a bit about dementia and see if you think it will be something you can handle. Dementia can be both physically and emotionally difficult to handle.
Weigh the care you can give to that she is receiving in the facility. Which would be better? I would base my decision on that and not that you and your mother want to live in the house again. The house can become like a jail for both of you as the disease progresses.
This doesn't even touch the dementia itself. I was going to go on and on about their care but decided that really all you need to think about is the fact that for 24/7 this person who is used to that kind of care and probably requires it, will be requiring you to be availability. Sleeping will be a luxury. It's like a toddler that never grows up and instead sometimes gets worse over time. It's like reliving the terrible 2's forever. At least that's my experience of it. Are you ready to take that on?
I'm sorry you quit your job so quickly. I wish in some ways you had kept your job and your ability to live and instead tried to get support from the state set up so that you could keep a job or some kind and still care for her. Depending on what stage your mother is in, sleeping could be difficult for her and also for you. She probably has had help going to the bathroom, bathing, dressing, eating, drinking, and even getting to sleep. Often times dementia patients make their own sleeping schedule which causes it to be hard.
Just make sure you know what you are getting into before bringing someone home from a care facility. Caregiving is no easy tasks and basically results in you giving up your life for whoever you are caring for.
Is Mom asking to "go home"? Please note when an elder who has memory issues says they want to go home, they want to go back to their childhood home where everything was simple, easy, and fun being a child.
Now take a few minutes and read this article, and the many replies https://www.agingcare.com/articles/living-with-elderly-parents-do-you-regret-the-decision-133798.htm as it is a real eye opener.