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Hello everyone I'm writing today in desperate need to know weather my 67 year old mom is starting to develop Alzheimer's. She believes that my brother's EX (she hates her) wife is coming into the house and moving things around. She got a new alarm system, she locks up every day, and she believes there are hidden cameras in the house watching and that's how my mother feels she's able to get into the house. Me not knowing or understanding what Alzheimer's was I told her there is no one coming in the house and she still believes things are being moved around. She says to me that my brothers EX wife is moving things around just to let her (my mother) know that she was there. Again I did not think nothing of it. Then one morning came and I forgot to lock the door and she screamed at me and right then that's when I looked up information on Alzheimer's. When I asked her about it she screamed and said she's not crazy. Don't get me wrong, my mom still goes to work, does normal things in the home, and she doesn't forget things. But she somehow believes that someone is coming into the house. I sat her down yesterday and told her my concerns and she said to me that she gets full check ups from her doctors. She still drives and do eventing else well, but she takes care of everything (I'm crying). She's the strongest lady I've ever known and to think that she may be getting ill scares me and sadden's me. She told me the only thing that would make her upset is if we (her sons) believe's that she was crazy. I'm new to understanding changes In age because I myself am very busy, but for the last few days reading about alzimers I started to sit back and watch her. I notice that she sings or hums in house a lot more, she forgot I gave her a glass of water the other night, small things like that. For the past 4 days (crying my eyes out) my mind is going crazy not knowing what to believe because she said she Go's to her doctors to check herself and say she's fine, She has high blood pressure and that's all I know of so far. Also I'm the one she talks to about most times about things that go on In the house, and now I think she thinks I'm no longer the person she can trust (crying). Please understand that my mom is my best friend who i respect and love dearly and it's kinda breaking me down mentally. I'm not sure what's going on. I'm confused. Is this the starting of Alzheimer's? She been locking doors and thinking people are coming in for the past 4 or 5 mounths. Is this something to be concerned about? Please God not my mother ......thank you

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Rich2015, get your own anxiety under control first. You are mixing up days, because nobody has a Dr appointment on Sunday, not on March22nd or on April 5th. See your own MD and get some medications and counseling. Now is not the time to talk to her doctor. Please see your MD asap.
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She's still working? That's very interesting. If she is developing some sort of dementia I can't imagine how she holds down a job. Can you very discreetly talk to her boss or a coworker about what they are seeing? Also talk to her doc about what you are seeing with your mom.
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Pam, lots of us who live in Jewish Brooklyn have dr appointments on Sundays lol!
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Rich, I think that it's time for you to find someone you can talk to about this and the other stressors in your life. Do you have a doctor yourself? Go in and have a chat about what's going on in your life and find out how to get yourself seen by a therapist. Yes, having the possibility of your mother being I'll is stressful, but you don't want it to send you around the bend. You need to be able to work and maintain other relationships in order to stay strong and be a help to your mom as she grows older. Post back and let us know what the doctor finds.
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Don't know where Rich lives, but if he's in NYC, there are loads of docs who keep Sunday hours and many of the labs are open as well. One of the many benefits of living in a very pluralistic place.
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It will get back to Mom, but the good news is that maybe she will get you to the MD and you will get some Ativan to relieve the overwhelming anxiety.
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Again thank you all for your most needed feed back. Today I did go to the doctor and it seems that I now have high blood pressure. Wow, can axiety cause this. Both my mother and my brother take high blood medication. I'm am over weight, but I know it's the feelings I'm having for my mother is what's causing this high blood pressure. I'm now looking into calming myself down. This terrible axiety is making me think the worst. I do need to get myself together and I will. Thank you everyone. I will keep you up to date.
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Rich, I'm so glad you saw your doctor! High bp comes from many sources. Stress can be a factor but not always. Did you talk to your doc about a yherapist? Taking that step may be just as important as bp meds at this point.
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Today is Sunday.. No doctors are open on Sunday for checkups. No bloodwork happened today I'm willing to bet.

Be careful. Don't charge in with what will sound to her like accusations of incompetence.

Visit her. Does the house look in order? Is the food in the fridge fresh or old and stale? Are there repairs not being made? Does she smell bad?
These are clues that the person needs help.

Paranoid delusions can come from a bad medication mix and side effects.
Or stress.
Or a parasite.
Or any number of things that are not Alzheimers or brain disease.

If you can't get her to tell you who her doctor is, look on her medication bottles.

Keep a journal of behaviors and incidents so you have records to look back over.
Stay calm.
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Hi Rich, Sorry to hear of the challenges you feel you may be facing
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