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I’m a newbie, but this is what I’ve learned so far: It depends on how your loved one responds to different tactics and how much tolerance you have at the moment. You can try diversion if you have the patience and the time. You can try humor if you’re the creative type. You can ignore them and they might stop asking….or they might keep at it all day. (Then again, they might keep at it all day even if you do answer.) Or they might get angry regardless of what your answer is or how many times you give it. Or they might get wiley and ask the same question 17 different ways (which is the most fun but can build up hope that maybe some of the cylinders are still firing). I guess what I’m trying to say is I’ve tried them all and the responses have changed from day to day - sometimes from hour to hour. Today my husband had been in ‘anger response mode’ so I ran away and went grocery shopping for an hour; a luxury not everyone has, I know. When I got back he was in ‘wiley mode’ but I felt refreshed enough by my temporary escape that I was able to divert. It feels weird to do that in the beginning, like saying “ooh look, a squirrel!” to a dog, but it gets easier when you realize it’s easier for them as well.
No, I don't do it. I may answer once, but afterwards I'm like um hum or non responsive. I've had clients tell me the same stories from forty years ago but couldn't remember something ten minutes ago. I listen patiently to the same stories everyday. The short term memory is shot. This is the nature of the dementia beast.
Finally, the behavior stops when I stop giving enough attention to it.
No. You do not answer the same question over and over all day long. You will go insane and doing this will help create the perfect conditions for caregiver abuse.
When someone is in a dementia loop and repeating continually, you attempt to redirect them or ignore them. This is the only way to break a person out of the dementia repeating loop.
When the asking the same question over and over, you answer once or twice then you stop and refuse to discuss the matter any further.
Look into memory care placement or homecare for your loved one. No one should do it alone.
You don't have to give the same answer every time. Keep it interesting. "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "That's our new soup ladle." "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "That's a spoon for the soup." "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "That's for dipping fish out of the tank." (We don't have fish or a tank.) "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "That's an art object." "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "I don't know." (By this time, I don't.) "What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.) "Your guess is as good as mine. Please go put it in the sink." He puts it in the porch planter and smiles at me over his shoulder. Yes, there are fun times even now.
Probably by seeking placement for a loved one you simply cannot mentally cope with caring for at this point. That would be my response. Because of course your loved one's behavior won't be changing.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You can try diversion if you have the patience and the time.
You can try humor if you’re the creative type.
You can ignore them and they might stop asking….or they might keep at it all day. (Then again, they might keep at it all day even if you do answer.)
Or they might get angry regardless of what your answer is or how many times you give it.
Or they might get wiley and ask the same question 17 different ways (which is the most fun but can build up hope that maybe some of the cylinders are still firing).
I guess what I’m trying to say is I’ve tried them all and the responses have changed from day to day - sometimes from hour to hour. Today my husband had been in ‘anger response mode’ so I ran away and went grocery shopping for an hour; a luxury not everyone has, I know. When I got back he was in ‘wiley mode’ but I felt refreshed enough by my temporary escape that I was able to divert. It feels weird to do that in the beginning, like saying “ooh look, a squirrel!” to a dog, but it gets easier when you realize it’s easier for them as well.
Finally, the behavior stops when I stop giving enough attention to it.
When someone is in a dementia loop and repeating continually, you attempt to redirect them or ignore them. This is the only way to break a person out of the dementia repeating loop.
When the asking the same question over and over, you answer once or twice then you stop and refuse to discuss the matter any further.
Look into memory care placement or homecare for your loved one. No one should do it alone.
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"That's our new soup ladle."
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"That's a spoon for the soup."
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"That's for dipping fish out of the tank." (We don't have fish or a tank.)
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"That's an art object."
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"I don't know." (By this time, I don't.)
"What is this?" (Holds up new soup ladle.)
"Your guess is as good as mine. Please go put it in the sink."
He puts it in the porch planter and smiles at me over his shoulder.
Yes, there are fun times even now.