My mother fell about a year ago and broke her shoulder. She had to have emergency surgery, then about 6 months ago she fell and broke her leg and her hip. She has a steel plate and rod in her hip and her leg, and it's on the same side as her shoulder now she has been bedridden since she broke her leg and hip and she has a really bad bed sore on her butt bone. She is starting to get sores on her back, but she can't roll over on either side. She's had bone cancer. Is it near the end for her? She doesn't eat anymore or drink. She hasn't had her diaper changed in 2 days because she hasn't peed nor used the bathroom in it. She has really done some suffering since 2008. I really don't want to lose my mother by no means cuz it will break my heart and it will kill me, but I also don't want to see her in pain anymore. I just don't know what else to do.
If your mother is developing bedsores, it means she needs more care than you ALONE can give her.
If I were in your place, I would call 911 and have an ambulance take her to the hospital for treatment.
Once you're there, ask to speak to a social worker about getting her the care she needs.
Her demands are selfish and hurt YOU, and frankly, you should tell her. I guarantee she doesn't know what hospice really does. They don't take care of her -- that's still on you -- but it'll keep you from being overwhelmed and having no way to alleviate her pain as she dies.
maybe not tomorrow. It does, however, seem to assure a painful death.
I second JoAnn saying that hospice should be brought in to minimize that happening to the mom with op watching said painful death.
It definitely sounds like your mothers time here on this earth is coming to an end, and you need hospice to be able to make her comfortable and not in pain so she can leave this world peacefully. You want that for her don't you?
The fact that she has a bedsore on her "butt bone" could very well mean that she has developed what is called a Kennedy ulcer and 9.9 times out of 10 it is fatal. And since she's not eating or drink means that her digestive system and organs are shutting down, and she's preparing to leaving this world for the next.
Please don't let her suffer, and call hospice NOW!!! You won't regret it. However you may regret leaving your mother to suffer needlessly.
One other big benefit was that we just had to inform hospice of my mom's passing and they took it from there. There was no call to 911 necessary, no involvement from the police or the coroner.
Another benefit if we needed was grief counseling. We didn't, but others might.
If she is not, I would call her doctor and ask for advice on what to do.
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