I never really asked much about durable power of attorney in Oklahoma, but since my sister quit talking to her which they always have had alot of problems but I gave my job up and she was supposed to make the rest of the house payments. I don't know what to do and I'm not qualified to help her. It as far as making me to the point I'm so sick I am not gonna be able to see about her. She draws retirement and social security and money since my father passed away. Will they take it all or does it depend. I just don't know what else to do. Could someone, if you can, pleasae tell me. Thank you
From this very site about caregiving agreements: https://www.agingcare.com/documents/personal_care_agreement_AgingCare.pdf
If your mother or you have an attorney it's wise to check with him or her.
I believe you're also hinting about placing your mom in a nursing home? Please do. They should have a person who can advise you about the ins and outs of how it's paid for.
In the end, it doesn't matter. Manipulating people to make them step in line is hurtful and wrong. Your mom probably has enough assets to place her in a nice facility. Then you can visit or not, depending on your own wishes.
The guilt will abate. She'll bug you for a while, but you can always walk away. Maybe get some therapy and help to work on setting boundaries with mom.