While cleaning out my mother's home, after she went to Assisted Living, I found both my grandfather and grandmother's Wills. My grandfather left me his car and my grandmother left me $2,000, neither of which I received years ago. I feel so hurt and betrayed that my mother would be so greedy as to keep this. She was always a bit shady and secretive. Now she has dementia. How do I get closure for such horrible behavior from my mother?
But I think it's even simpler than that - at bottom, the OP just wants to know what happened. There could be a good explanation that would set her mind at rest, or there could be a lousy explanation that she'd feel aggrieved about and then gradually get over; but not knowing why her mother didn't comply with her grandparents' instructions must be torment.
Any elder I knew did not have an automobile at the time of death. As they aged and developed medical issues, they had all ceased driving and gave up/sold their vehicles. As for $ 2,000, if any money was used up for their care, bills due at the time of their deaths and funeral arrangements ($ 2,000 doesn't go far,) there was no money to distribute to the letter writer. I'd bet that this is the situation.
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The good thing is, is that my mother also raised a strong woman and I pass that strength on to my daughter. My daughter got a government grant and finished school all on our own.
My mother is not the same person now that she has dementia. She seems to have lost that evil side. I guess because her brain doesn't function like it normally would.
Look at the children of long ago who were cheated in the film industry by their parents and managers. It’s stealing, plain and simple.
I know a young man who inherited money from his grandma and his mom told him that she was “borrowing some money” from his inheritance. She never paid him back. He was 17.
He had enough left to buy a car later but his mom took the money his grandma left for his college education. He had to work to pay for his own education.