My Dad has dementia and is almost 89 years old. It is time for us to look for a nursing home and we decided to take him to Prestige Care in Arizona. But, I have no idea how to talk about this, his memory is severely impaired. When I started talking about this he still showing signs of aggression and I am very concerned now. Please help me if you receive any hint as to how to manage this situation and make him move into the nursing home.
She soon loved it and cries to go back after she's out for an appointment. Occasionally, she will cry to come to my house, but that leaves quickly and in 5 minutes she has no memory that she did it.
Regardless, it's a tough situation to be in. Did he get combative when you discussed this with him? And his combativeness was a result of having to move into a nursing home?
When it comes time to take him have someone else with you (maybe a son or a nephew, some male relative). Plan this out with the nursing home. Tell them about his combativeness. You might want to talk to the social worker about this before you take your dad.
Does your dad have a prescription for Xanax or Ativan? If so, administer a dose before you go to the nursing home. If not, call his Dr., explain the situation, and get a prescription even if it's just for a few pills (since your dad is going into a nursing home they will be responsible for all of his medication and the Dr. may not want to write a full scrip but he can write for a dose or two).
Make sure there is a wheelchair waiting for him (in case he's sedated). Go in with him, stay with him for as long as you think is necessary. Eventually you're going to have to leave. Cry your eyes out on the way to your car. That's what I did.