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NickiG, could you give us more information such as what are the medical issues with your parent? Is the parent active during the day? Has the parent lost their sense of taste to food? When was the last time the parent saw a dentist? Does the parent get an upset stomach after eating?
I agree that some more details will help you get more thorough answers but I have a comment anyway: if someone isn't eating enough or has stopped eating never try to force them to eat. I don't mean physically but by cajoling and badgering the person. I understand it can be alarming when someone stops eating but there are various ways to encourage the person to eat without turning them off completely or making a nuisance of ourselves. Try to encourage things that are pleasing to taste as opposed to nutritional value like a chocolate Boost, pudding, jello, popsicles, a small slice of cheddar cheese. Things like this, while not meals, may stimulate the appetite.
My grandmother, whom I cared for before she went into a NH, stopped eating as she declined but she had always loved hot fudge sundaes so once a week I would bring my daughter, who was a toddler at the time and the apple of my grandma's eye, a hot fudge sundae to her NH. The nurses told me my grandma shouldn't be eating it because of her diabetes but at the age (and weight) of 93 I decided it was OK once a week an the nurses began looking the other way.
If an elderly parent doesn't want a slice meantloaf, potatoes, peas, and a piece of bread for dinner get creative. But never show your frustration or exasperation if your parent continues to refuse food. Meal times should be pleasant, something to anticipate, not a battleground of guilt and anxiety. This will just serve to compound the problem.
My MIL only ate soup and Jelly and ice cream for ages. Two teaspoons of each. I made all her favourite flavours. I made stew and blitz it until it was smooth added a little cream to thin it out. Then I froze it in ice cube trays. That way I could give her as few, or as many needed. Good Luck
More details needed. If she’s in a SNF the food could be less than optimal in flavor, but there were a few favorites my mother would only turn down when she was ill, otherwise her favorite was a McDonald’s fish sandwich. She loved this, especially when it was fresh and hot. There are meds to improve appetite but are only given for 30 day intervals.
I agree, more details please. But, have you tried nutritional drinks ? Tell them it's a milkshake. Or their favorite food. Easy to eat items, such as apple sauce, yogurt, etc. Also, put VERY small portions out. I saw residents in my Mom's memory care place be overwhelmed with big plates of food.
If the parent is competent, then, I'd follow their lead on what they want to eat. If they have a poor appetite, provide them the foods they do like and let their own desire be their guide. It's my understanding that seniors who have little activity, don't need all the calories they did when they were much more active. Unless, the doctor is concerned about some medical issue, I'd try not to interfere. Most seniors that I know like small portions, finger food, sweets, and ice cream.
If they aren't competent, then, I'd discuss it with their doctor to see what options there are, examine their Medical Directive, research the matter, consider Hospice if needed, etc.
My mother is in a nursing home and is 90, she recently has slowed down on eating which is sad. She used to eat so well. One thing I have noticed is that the nursing home has changed the meals they serve the residents. They are horrible, all bland, no taste, very unappetizing just looking at the plate of food. It's ashamed that they don't make an effort to spice up the food with at least more herbs. I feel your concern. If my mother continues to eat less and less, she will wither away.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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My grandmother, whom I cared for before she went into a NH, stopped eating as she declined but she had always loved hot fudge sundaes so once a week I would bring my daughter, who was a toddler at the time and the apple of my grandma's eye, a hot fudge sundae to her NH. The nurses told me my grandma shouldn't be eating it because of her diabetes but at the age (and weight) of 93 I decided it was OK once a week an the nurses began looking the other way.
If an elderly parent doesn't want a slice meantloaf, potatoes, peas, and a piece of bread for dinner get creative. But never show your frustration or exasperation if your parent continues to refuse food. Meal times should be pleasant, something to anticipate, not a battleground of guilt and anxiety. This will just serve to compound the problem.
There are meds to improve appetite but are only given for 30 day intervals.
If they aren't competent, then, I'd discuss it with their doctor to see what options there are, examine their Medical Directive, research the matter, consider Hospice if needed, etc.
on eating which is sad. She used to eat so well. One thing I have noticed is that the nursing home has changed the meals they serve the residents. They are horrible, all bland, no taste, very unappetizing just looking at the plate of food. It's ashamed that they don't make an effort to spice up the food with
at least more herbs. I feel your concern. If my mother continues to eat less
and less, she will wither away.