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My mom refuses a bed bath (in the process of remodeling the bathroom to a zero-clearance shower) now that it's winter. She was getting a bath once a week. I use those body wipes instead now, they are a lifesaver. I warm them in the microwave and wipe her down. She doesn't mind, it's less stressful.
3 times a week would be most ideal but if that is not possible then twice but at least once. My mother is in AL and on a schedule for 3 showers with assistance. She generally complies unless she is not feeling well with any given issue and then tends to refuse a shower. I am aware of this so once it starts to occur I tell her that she cannot continue to refuse showers as she starts to look awful. I discuss this with the aides and her and keep after it. It is tiresome indeed but I am not going to easily let her get by since she is in the condition she is in from years of neglect.
At the MC location where my mom is, they take very good care of her. She has been there 2 months so far. They shower her 2 times a week. Each time I see her, she smells very clean.
Once a week was the norm when I was growing up in the era where Saturday night was bathe night :)
As we age it can become more difficult to shower/bath. I have noticed for myself that taking a shower is like going to the gym for a work out. It can be very exhausting for many seniors.
And some seniors become claustrophobic when in a shower. That happened to my Mom. For a tub bath, there's the issue of trying to sit down in the tub, and the more problematic issue of trying to stand back up to leave the tub.
Then there is the fear of falling. If one is using a moisturizing liquid soap and/or hair conditioners, it will make the floor of the tub/shower feel like an ice rink, even with a tub mat inside. I almost slipped the other day.
Towel drying isn't easy. I find myself hopping around trying to get one foot and leg dry, can be a challenge. So easy to get one's feet tangled up in the towel :P
Don't get me started on blow drying one's hair.
If a person is a Depends wearer, baby wipes work quite well between showers. Recently I found a product called “Water Wipes” in the baby section, quite pleased with the wipes. In fact, they worked great on an elderly cat who could no longer wash "down there". The cat would come into the bathroom whenever she felt she needed a wipe :)
There's no ideal number. There's no scientifically proven interval. People just say what they think. It's an opinion. There's no reason for it.
The daily showering which is the current fad in the west is more a product of clever marketing by soap companies than a good idea. Studies have shown that daily showering is bad for your skin, not good. It washes away the microbiome on the skin. People don't naturally smell. They smell because the microbiome is destroyed by bathing. All this showering is a very recent practice. For most of the 20th century most people in the west only bathed once a week.
Some light reading about the natural microbiome on the skin and the detriment of modern practices.
I help give my Alz. mother a shower once a week. Reasons: her scalp is on the dry side, not oily, so it doesn't attract and trap dirt, and her hair doesn't get oily and dirty. She also doesn't sweat and does not have body odor. So, it's sufficient to have a shower once a week. When the weather gets cold and rainy, she'll skip a week.
When she was living with me last year, she absolutely refused to take showers despite me trying everything to convince, coerce, trick, etc. She went without washing for 6 months. No joke. Luckily, she doesn't have body odor so it was tolerable. Now that she's living with her sister, her behavior improves. So now, a little incentive (going shopping - she loves it) will get her cooperation.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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As we age it can become more difficult to shower/bath. I have noticed for myself that taking a shower is like going to the gym for a work out. It can be very exhausting for many seniors.
And some seniors become claustrophobic when in a shower. That happened to my Mom. For a tub bath, there's the issue of trying to sit down in the tub, and the more problematic issue of trying to stand back up to leave the tub.
Then there is the fear of falling. If one is using a moisturizing liquid soap and/or hair conditioners, it will make the floor of the tub/shower feel like an ice rink, even with a tub mat inside. I almost slipped the other day.
Towel drying isn't easy. I find myself hopping around trying to get one foot and leg dry, can be a challenge. So easy to get one's feet tangled up in the towel :P
Don't get me started on blow drying one's hair.
If a person is a Depends wearer, baby wipes work quite well between showers. Recently I found a product called “Water Wipes” in the baby section, quite pleased with the wipes. In fact, they worked great on an elderly cat who could no longer wash "down there". The cat would come into the bathroom whenever she felt she needed a wipe :)
The daily showering which is the current fad in the west is more a product of clever marketing by soap companies than a good idea. Studies have shown that daily showering is bad for your skin, not good. It washes away the microbiome on the skin. People don't naturally smell. They smell because the microbiome is destroyed by bathing. All this showering is a very recent practice. For most of the 20th century most people in the west only bathed once a week.
Some light reading about the natural microbiome on the skin and the detriment of modern practices.
https://advances.sciencemag.org/content/1/3/e1500183
Here's one person's experience when he stopped showering.
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/06/i-stopped-showering-and-life-continued/486314/
When she was living with me last year, she absolutely refused to take showers despite me trying everything to convince, coerce, trick, etc. She went without washing for 6 months. No joke. Luckily, she doesn't have body odor so it was tolerable. Now that she's living with her sister, her behavior improves. So now, a little incentive (going shopping - she loves it) will get her cooperation.
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