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We made all arrangements a year ago for 98 year old Mom and paid in full. It locked in a price and allowed us to make decisions that would be even more challenging at the 12th hour. It’s never easy.
Are you asking the remaining family or are you asking the person who is dying? Either way, do it quickly. (but not on the day of death...grief and all)
Since you also asked about how to be a good support, how about asking "you must be super busy making funeral plans. Can I help out in any way?" Or ask specifically if they need help walking the dog, staying at the home during the service or bringing food.
In my community's tradition, you just show up with a cake or a casserole as well.
I do not see anything in your profile other than you are caring for a friend 25 years old. If this is the person you are talking about and they are dying you should be able to talk to them anytime about what they want. If they are on Hospice this might be something that you, your friend and the Chaplain or Social Worker can talk about. If it is talking to the family if you know what your friend wants please tell them specially if they are talking about doing something that you know your friend would not want. Some people do not want to discuss this at all. My Husband never talked about it and would get upset. It was not until I talked to his sister that I found out that he wanted to be buried next to his mom.
What you can do is ask if there is anything that you can do to help your friend or the family. Bring a dish that can be heated up easily or frozen for later. If there is a lot of family a tray of cookies, maybe a tray of cold cuts and bread or rolls. During any other time I would suggest Home Made goodies but not now, store bought is the safest option some people are hesitant to eat foods made by someone. Just continue to be a good friend and offer support.
Is the friend you say you are caring for? Is he an only child, if not I would think someone has taken on that responsibility. If the father was on Hospice, his body was taken directly to the Funeral home of choice. I hope that knowing he was passing he made prior plans with the Funeral Home. You can prepay a funeral. A regular burial is 3 days. Cremation is a little different. A viewing may be done for immediate family. Cremation is usually done right away because there is no embalming. Family may choose a time in the future to have some kind of service if at all. Depends on the wishes of the person who died.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Either way, do it quickly. (but not on the day of death...grief and all)
In my community's tradition, you just show up with a cake or a casserole as well.
If this is the person you are talking about and they are dying you should be able to talk to them anytime about what they want.
If they are on Hospice this might be something that you, your friend and the Chaplain or Social Worker can talk about.
If it is talking to the family if you know what your friend wants please tell them specially if they are talking about doing something that you know your friend would not want. Some people do not want to discuss this at all. My Husband never talked about it and would get upset. It was not until I talked to his sister that I found out that he wanted to be buried next to his mom.
"my friend lost his father today to cancer. He knew his father would not last this month, as a friend who cares what should i do??"
Bring a dish that can be heated up easily or frozen for later.
If there is a lot of family a tray of cookies, maybe a tray of cold cuts and bread or rolls. During any other time I would suggest Home Made goodies but not now, store bought is the safest option some people are hesitant to eat foods made by someone.
Just continue to be a good friend and offer support.