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My mom has a dog and she is putting the dog in danger and herself but refuses to give the dog up. She is feeding food he cannot eat that is cauing allergies and bathing him at all hour of the night falling and not saying anything leaving the dog in the bathtub and sometime put him outside and forget he is out there. We must find a way to take the dog away before she or the dog gets hurt really bad.

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Thank you all, I had a conversation with my mom who does not live in the same state as I do and she is ok as long as I take the dog. Keep praying for us.
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I agree and we will keep him within the family however he will be living the state I live in not the one my mom lives in but I will ensure he is forever taken care of.
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Who is taking care of your mother? If she has dementia, she shouldn't be alone. Can't the caregiver make sure the dog is properly fed, in at night and so on?
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That is great! I love that you are honoring your Mom by taking care of and loving the pet she loves so much! :)
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My mother had a miniature pinscher which passed away. Unable to walk a dog she got a cat from rescue, Pixie. When I moved to care for her I brought my then big dog (who passed away in 2011) and 3 cats and we lived in the basement. She desperately wanted another dog and I thought what the heck, it will always have a home with me, and so home came Sue, a minpin x jack russell terrorist.

When my mother eventually went into a nursing home I bought a tiny house on 2 acres out in the country. Sue and Pixie now live with me, along with my 3 cats and an old black lab who came from rescue last year. She can't sit up or stand any more but I took my handyman along to lift her into the truck and brought her here to watch the dogs playing in the backyard. She's content in the knowledge that her beloved pets are safe and well cared for.
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Brit I'm originally from the uk but in Canada many years. Us Brits are great animal lovers. I've had big rescue dogs life long. Now I'm older than dirt I only adopt seniors so hopefully I don't leave anyone behind. Sue will be 5 this year and Ashley, the lab, 8. Once I'm done with house renos I hope to be able to afford to have the whole 2 acres fenced, then maybe I'll adopt another oldster.

With all the chaos and stress over the past few years I don't know what I'd have done without my furkids. Frankly I prefer them to most humans :)
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rxmarr - I am glad you have resolved your doggy problem.

Even so, for others who may be reading this question for an answer, I'm just going to say that, as much as animals are good for the health of an elder, the decision to keep or rehome a pet cannot ever be left in the hands of a dementia patient. While these beloved pets should not be ripped away from them in anger or with attempted logic, they can just be quietly and undramatically removed with a simple explanation of "went to heaven", "very sick and had to be put to sleep" or "ran away and we're looking for him". The one I used most often was "not feeling well and had to leave him at the vet", then is a question arises, "still at the vet" or "they don't know what's wrong yet" and continue that answer until the questions stop. With dementia, they will. And there is no sense of time, so answering in this way is the dementia equivalent of just letting it go.

BTW - would you consider updating your profile which says your mom is in independent living with general age-related decline, sense now you say she is living with your niece and has dementia. Mant of us go first to review the profile when a question is posed by someone we don't recognize.
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I will add here that even though my Mom has dementia, having her beloved pets seem to provide a sense of continuity in her life and I am convinced that animals have a deep connection with their "parents" that few people can understand....Love your loved one, but in doing so, love and care for the pet they love...even if that means rehoming ultimately, TAKE THE TIME TO FIND A PROPER LOVING HOME...not just somewhere to "put it" so it is not a worry any longer....
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Ashlynne bless you for taking in needy pets and I think that was an excellent way for your mom to still have a pet. I know that personally I dread the day I will not have my beloved pets with me :(
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As the 24/7 caregiver of an 89 yr old parent, as well as a life long animal rights advocate....I pray that anyone reading this question will, by all means, remember that pets play a huge part in all of our lives...Keep in mind how you would feel if someone just came in and took away your pets and you never knew where they went. You certainly must take into consideration the safety and health of the pet and certainly of the person being cared for, but I have all too often heard the lame excuse of wanting to do the right thing for the pet, and the family promptly removes the pet and dumps it at the shelter, has it put down, etc.

For me, knowing how much my Mom loves her pets and always cared for them, these pets also became part of my family...I have my own pets and had to integrate them into our daily routine. Mom's safety is obviously the priority, but integrating the pets into your family can be done with a little patience and effort...And for me, if you love your parent or person for whom you are providing care, you will love and respect them enough to know they would not want you to dump or abandon their pet simply to get the pet out of the, and I pray to God neither would you....
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