The most embarrassing question ever! My mom has dementia & we recently moved her & Dad to an independent senior living for extra care & family support a month ago. She has been asking & wanting sexual intimacy with my 82-yr-old Dad. (They haven’t done that in at least 20 yrs according to Dad) He is organically impotent & frustrated my mom is suddenly having desire for him! Apparently they tried & she feels rejected & upset with him because he couldn’t perform. They have been married for 59 yrs… I was thrown off that he even shared this private info with me & told him to try EXTRA kisses, holding hands, & compliments throughout the day. His response was “I think that might get me into more trouble!” Lol! Any suggestions for my Dad? Appreciate the feedback to my awkward question!
After Dh had a terrible motorcycle wreck and then a couple years later 2 massive heart attacks, he totally lost interest in sex.
It makes me feel awful and lonely, as he won't even touch me. But I believe he's impotent and embarrassed about it.
Had a very low sex drive since about 1 year into marriage. We've been celibate for 9 long years. If I try to bring it up, he leaves the room. Or gets mad. Either way, it keeps me feeling alone and lonely. It's amazing we had 5 kids as we only had sex once or twice a month.
She may also be thinking she is a 20 year old newly wed in her dementia?
Is his physical attention for hugging and kissing helping her feel security or is it only leading her mind to wanting sex? If she needs close reassurance with hand holding and hugging and he is willing, then it is ok. If it frustrates her to just want sex, then discuss with the dr some options for her libedo.
This lady hasn’t had sex in two decades. Given natural atrophy, it’s possible she can’t have POV for physical reasons. Getting a male stranger to come in for that, no way.
No old woman who's been married for 59 years and very likely has dementia, needs to get a vibrator or have a prostitute hired for her. No 82-year-old man should have a 'strap-on' suggested to him by his daughter. Or anyone else for that matter.
The people on this thread who have made such suggestions should seriously think before they comment.