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She is in a nursing home now. She has CHF. She's 93 now. She is my only immediate family (I'm an only child). The stress can be overwhelming even though she's being cared for in a home. There's always the "what ifs" that run through your head. We're very close. More like best friends than parent-child. Hospice is coming tomorrow.
The stress of seeing a loved parent reach the end of their lives is very difficult. I know that with CHF, both your mother and you are having a lot of stress at the moment. I hope that hospice will help make it less. Do you have your mother's medical POA (healthcare proxy)? If you do, you may want to work closely with hospice to make sure their plan of serving your mother is the same as your own.
Something that helped me dealing with my father's last days was to realize that it was in God's hands. I am not a religious person, but I found comfort in knowing that it was in His hands. I think what we can do for ourselves and our loved one is to come to an acceptance and know that the end of life can be easier than suffering for a longer time. Letting go can be hard, since as long as there is a spark of life, there is always the hope that things will be okay.
I'm sorry that you are going through this alone. I've always thought it would be easier if we had sisters to share with. I guess it is why this group is so nice. There are a lot of people to write to here. We have been and are going through the same thing.
bjp, is your mother still competent? Hospice will probably ask her to sign a DNR order to not be resuscitated if her heart stops beating. At 93 this is a very good thing, since CPR is very hard on a 93-year old body and will not have any desirable outcome since the condition of her heart is so poor. Is your mother a member of a church or other spiritual group? I wondered if she might find some comfort in a visit from the clergy.
I signed a DNR on her when she entered the NH. She is mentally competent, just very, very weak. She is active LDS (Mormon). Most of her church friends have passed away but there are a few that visit her on occasion. The Bishop has visited her and is aware of her condition.
I read on your profile that your mother is in a nursing home after having a stroke. It sounds like you are doing the best you can to handle the stress on both you and her. Have you thought about calling hospice in if the nursing home will work with them? Sometimes they can make things easier.
Mom never took out a living will. But I haven't had any problem telling doctors/nurses what to do for her. They understand. Yes it's tough to face this alone. Mom is such a fighter, she's overcome a lot in her 93 years.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Something that helped me dealing with my father's last days was to realize that it was in God's hands. I am not a religious person, but I found comfort in knowing that it was in His hands. I think what we can do for ourselves and our loved one is to come to an acceptance and know that the end of life can be easier than suffering for a longer time. Letting go can be hard, since as long as there is a spark of life, there is always the hope that things will be okay.
I'm sorry that you are going through this alone. I've always thought it would be easier if we had sisters to share with. I guess it is why this group is so nice. There are a lot of people to write to here. We have been and are going through the same thing.