She forgets that she has had coffee and keeps asking for more which is deterrent to her health. Because of her forgetfulness, she keeps on asking for more coffee and claims that she has not had at all. what to do? Finds fault all the time and wants to be left at her husband's place.
who has passed away
For the wanting of more coffee, and there is a health issue, water down those extra cups of coffee, so that only the first coffee of the day taste really good.
So what are the health concerns you have about coffee? Maybe I will learn something new! It's admirable that you want your grandmother to consume a healthy diet, but you don't want to battle constantly, either. Believe me when I tell you, if you are strung too tightly, you will burn out quicker.
Breakfast could include coffee, but just half a cup. You can divide her coffee intake into three or four 1/2 cups per day, and I'd go with Decaf (she won't know the difference) only because caffeine will cause dehydration, esp in hot weather. So, if you've got 6 oz cups, that's 3 oz each meal, which is 9 oz of coffee. And if it's decaf, then it basically 9 oz of water.
I'd also give her some water in a cup near where she sits during the day.
At rehab/nursing home care, there is routine. Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner. At all thee meals, coffee is available. So, that's three cups a day. During the day, iced water is at the side of the person.
Liquid is important because you don't want dehydration to set in.
Also, just because a person with dementia is asking for something, doesn't mean they want it. It's the disease, not the person.
You must also recognize that she has dementia--i.e., her brain function will not get better. If she's asking because you're limiting her to that one cup a day, I see no need to do that. She's at the end of her life, she has very little to enjoy.
This is not easy. I believe there's a lot more going on here than just the coffee. You may want to re-evaluate your reasons for caring for her and start thinking about alternatives. Someone who keeps forgetting they had something to drink may be too hard to care for on your own. And if she's finding fault with everything, well, that's not easy to deal with either.
This poor dear old woman has dementia. There are so many losses in her life -- critical, major, heart-breaking losses -- that you'd better have an awfully serious reason for adding one more.
She wants coffee. Give her coffee.
If you have a strong reason she should be limited please explain it to us.
Teas offer a fun alternative: there are so many flavors, herb teas for every need and mood. I too think that making a cup of something hot is comforting and adds something special to whatever you are doing.
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