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My Dad now wears adult diapers. They're well fitted, as good as possible. Although he SEEMS too weak to even lift his arms to put a t-shirt on, he SOMEHOW manages to completely remove his shirts, diapers AND blankets EVERY night, ending up naked every morning soaking the bed pads and covers, no matter how late his last change is done. I'm a midnight owl, very little sleep, so it's pretty late. I've tried putting a pull up diaper over the tab type to limit his access to rip them off, securing both with duct tape. No Bueno. He STILL wrangles everything off.



He's been tested for a UTI, good there. Is the only next step to put some type of clothing item on him over everything that he can POSSIBLY not be able to remove? He always slept in his underwear and a t-shirt. I'm trying to keep him comfy. I'm in the process of applying for Medicaid to get him in a skilled facility aka nursing home, but that's going to take time. Any helpful advice is MOST appreciated!

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Anti-strip jumpsuits,
and
disposable bed pads.

I don't use anti strip clothing for my husband. Too hard for me to get on and off.
But, he takes his diaper off, so I just make sure he has large disposable pads under him. The absorbent pad does the job of a diaper, and I can easily roll it up and dispose - just like you would a diaper.
Pro Tip - have a clean one underneath, so when one is soiled and disposed, there is a clean dry surface already in place.
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I prefer to call them disposal underwear.

You may not be able to stop him from removing as long as his hands are free to move. My friend-companion did this - shredding them. I believe it was due to anxiety and boredem. He didn't want to wear clothes, either.

What about suspenders? Although he could still get to his underwear but maybe not take them totally off.

You might have to double up on the disposal or washable pads in / on the bed. Certainly be sure to have a waterproof plastic cover until the sheet and on top of the mattress.

Don't put clothes on him at night if he takes them off / drenches them.
Get waterproof blankets - they are many advertised:

Mambe 100% Waterproof Furniture Covers for pets and people - is one.

You may not be able to keep him comfortable although medication may help (ask MD) throughout the wee hours. Certainly do not let him drink after a certain time at night-perhaps 6pm?

You are certainly trying everything possible. You're a good daughter.
I hope you find some solution(s).

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He has disturbed sleep. Talk with doctor about medication to help him sleep through the night.
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I feel for you! Have same issues with Mom!
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CheriBabyAR: Use an anti strip one piece garment.
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My husband is also in advanced stage of dementia and while living at home I created and undergarment 100% cotton to keep him from removing his diaper. I will be more than happy to mail it to you since I don’t use it anymore. He’s in memory care now.
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Maybe he just wants to sleep in the nude. My roommate at the facility did/does this.
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Geaton777 Jul 13, 2024
"...ending up...every morning soaking the bed pads and covers, no matter how late his last change is done."

This is why. Do you think he's the one changing the sheets and his clothes, washing them, putting them back on every day?

People with dementia don't get to run the show, the family caregiver does.
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Try to non removable clothing and see how it works. I think it’s your best bet for now. A couple of “onesies” will be worth the investment.

Not that it helps, but this stage will pass.
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My Mom was doing the same thing, and at night…. She is non-ambulatory in the day and at night she was walking and wandering the halls and taking off her clothes and adult diapers…. It was determined she has ‘sundown syndrome’ and a stage of nighttime restlessness and In speaking with her physician she has been prescribed Seroquel and beginning in small doses and measure her sleeping and it is working for her!! I say check with your physician and explore this behavior and this may be a solution….we tried melatonin and that did not help… the Seroquel has been super helpful and she is sleeping through the night!!
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https://a.co/d/06YUXPVv

From Amazon, a one piece anti strip suit for dad. Way less expensive at $42 than what you're going thru now.

Good luck.
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Get a roll of duct tape and a pair of rounded-end scissors the kind that are used to cut through wound dressings.

Then duct tape the diaper at night. Make a belt of duct tape around it that he cannot take it off or get into it.

When it's time to remove it, use the bandage scissors to safely cur through the duct tape.

Or there are special garments you can try. They're expensive.
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He needs anti-strip jumpsuits for people with dementia.

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