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If you are talking about a Caregiver that you are getting in to help you care for your husband you can do a few things. Introduce the caregiver as YOUR friend. Say "Marvin" this is my friend "Betty" she and I are going to have a some coffee and chat this morning. Sit and talk to "Betty" about what you need her to help with. and she can help you do a few things. The next time "Betty" comes tell her that you have to run out to the store for some milk and eggs. While you are gone she and "Marvin" can chat and she can help him if he needs it. A few days of this might get your husband to the point where he more easily accepts help. A good caregiver that is used to working with people with dementia can do amazing things getting them comfortable and getting them to do things that sometimes family can't do. By the way if your husband is not on Hospice you might want to give a Hospice a call and have him evaluated. With Hospice you would get a CNA that will come in a few times a week to shower him and order supplies, a Nurse 1 time a week to check him and you can ask for a Volunteer that can come and sit with him a few hours each week. (this would be free) And you would get all the supplies and equipment that you need. All of this is covered by Medicare/Medicaid and other insurance.
You are 88 years old & your husband is 94! You tell him you cannot DO this alone anymore, sorry buddy! While he 'doesn't feel like we need help', YOU need help. So unless he'd like to move into a nursing home full time, you're hiring HELP to come into the home part time. Period. Tough love is often required when pig headed elders decide their wives ought to be their personal slaves.
Get that hospice evaluation going too, like Grandma suggested. That would let YOU off the hook for the 'bathing' headaches and lots more. Please do not kill yourself while attending to your husband; your life matters too, just as much as his!
Wishing you good luck and Godspeed putting your foot down in terms of what YOU need to make this chaos work!
I hope this is a caregiver coming for a visit. Just tell hubby that you need some help around the house. You're 88 and can't do everything you did when you were 60! Don't ask him about it, just do it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Introduce the caregiver as YOUR friend.
Say "Marvin" this is my friend "Betty" she and I are going to have a some coffee and chat this morning.
Sit and talk to "Betty" about what you need her to help with. and she can help you do a few things.
The next time "Betty" comes tell her that you have to run out to the store for some milk and eggs. While you are gone she and "Marvin" can chat and she can help him if he needs it.
A few days of this might get your husband to the point where he more easily accepts help.
A good caregiver that is used to working with people with dementia can do amazing things getting them comfortable and getting them to do things that sometimes family can't do.
By the way if your husband is not on Hospice you might want to give a Hospice a call and have him evaluated. With Hospice you would get a CNA that will come in a few times a week to shower him and order supplies, a Nurse 1 time a week to check him and you can ask for a Volunteer that can come and sit with him a few hours each week. (this would be free) And you would get all the supplies and equipment that you need. All of this is covered by Medicare/Medicaid and other insurance.
Get that hospice evaluation going too, like Grandma suggested. That would let YOU off the hook for the 'bathing' headaches and lots more. Please do not kill yourself while attending to your husband; your life matters too, just as much as his!
Wishing you good luck and Godspeed putting your foot down in terms of what YOU need to make this chaos work!
Good luck.