She lives alone after losing my uncle 4 years ago. She says that everything in the house reminds her of him. I used to take her shopping or out to run errands but the Corona Virus halted that. She used to walk around our complex regularly but there is a lady who lives across from her who is a nosey busy body that I recently found out bullies her. She is a sweet 89 year young lady who has a lot of life left. I’m 53 and wanna help but I don’t know how....any suggestions?
If your aunt has not been to visit her doctor lately, it might be time. There may be an imbalance in vitamin levels, or she may have a vague pain that she just cannot quite name.
As for the old hag who is bullying her, if she is actively seeking your aunt out and choosing every opportunity to pick on her, it’s time to speak with the manager of the complex. Chances are this old bat isn’t liked by more than one resident. If nothing is done and things don’t change, I’d run defense for your aunt. When you see this person, use non-threatening words that will leave no doubt in her mind that if she doesn’t leave your aunt alone, you will park on Managements doorstep until they handle the situation.
Are you going to see her during this time? If so, I might try to brighten up her place, since she says it reminds her of her departed husband. What about new curtains, paint, some cheerful deor (my mom likes birds, butterflies and flowers themes.). Maybe, hang up some wind chimes, garden flag, cut out special things and make handmade cards to make her feel special. Maybe, make her a cake or buy her a shirt that says, Best Aunt In The World, etc. Stuff like that can cheer someone, but, if she has a more serious issue, she might need the doctor to intervene. I think a lot of senors struggle with depression.
Just talking to someone every day helps though.
Does she use the internet? I have a senior friend that I send links for music videos to. She likes the funny ones or those of music like Nat King Cole, gospel choir.