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I am doing some small projects in my mom's outdated bathroom. We are replacing her old round toilet with a taller comfort height elongated toilet seat. I asked the plumber about a bidet for mom. The plumber mentioned that he has also sold a few Kohler bidet toilet seats. (The bidet is in the seat and has a warming function.) I was just wondering if anyone has found this helpful and effective? Mom has vascular dementia and sundowning and finds the hygiene challenging so the aide helps her but it is sometimes difficult. The elongated seat will bring a bit more room. I was just wondering about a bidet. She has never had one.

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Instead of a bidet seat, we purchased a bidet sprayer that attaches to the faucet and hangs on the side of the tub.
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It will give us full control of the cleansing so that as she progresses it can be used to rinse a larger area that may be soiled from wearing a diaper. By attaching to the faucet you also have direct control of the temperature of the water.
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The idea of bidet toilet seats has intrigued me for a long time - they seem such a practical solution - but I don't personally know anyone who has one. It would be nice if there was a showroom where you could try them out, wouldn't it 😉
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Sunny, the point of the bidet seats is that they do the cleaning (and the drying too if you get that function). They seem to be exactly what people who are having difficulty keeping clean would need, but!! - I'm not sure how someone with dementia would handle getting a wash and blow dry if they have never used one before.
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I can't speak to the issues with an elongated toilet very much, but it seems to me that it would help provide a little extra room if an aide has to reach behind the person to clean their bottom. The size of the ill person and difficulty in reaching around behind them could affect the matter too. In my case I discovered hand held bidets. A plastic squeeze bottle with an angled spout. Also referred to as perineal bottles, etc. You will find dozens of variations on Amazon, etc. You can use plain warm water maybe add some witch hazel, or use a solution sold for the purpose. I liked the idea well enough that I now use one myself.
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I don't know your mother's level of progression, but, I would question how she would learn how to handle such a thing by herself. Are you describing just a seat or one that had water function? I wasn't sure. From my experience, my LO was not even able to do basic things for her bathroom hygiene. She even forgot how to call for help, so, nothing but direct supervision and hands on care would help her.

I'd try to figure out if the person helping her would be able to clean her on the bidet seat. I've never done it, so, I can't say. Can you ask the assistant or CNA what they think? Having the person lay on the bed to be cleaned may be easier. I'm not sure.

I've also read that people with dementia often have an aversion to water. That's why they don't like getting a shower. So, I'd be wary of the bidet if it sprays water.
I hope that you'll get some responses from those who have used these before.
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As my grandmother declined over a 15 year period from multiple strokes, she progressed from needing assistance getting to the bathroom, then to the bedside commode, and eventually could not be moved from her bed.
I watched her daughters struggle physically to transport her from bed or chair to the toilet.
We purposely installed a bidet toilet when making accessiblility modifications to our bathroom.
The brand we purchased is called “Toto” and the product a “Washlet.” It is available as a separately installed seat or as a complete toilet.
It requires connection to an electrical outlet.
My Mom now lives with us. She has dementia, Parkinson’s and is at risk for falls. This toilet has been indispensable in maintaining both her hygiene and her dignity.
She resisted initially. But, as she needed more and more help with toileting, I was able to quietly turn it on while she sat. Now, I hear no complaints.
It has been helpful and sometimes a life-saver in these circumstances:
- When she is too weak to stand in the shower
- When she has had diarrhea
- To prevent irritation and chaffing from urine that leaks (incontinence)
- To preserve her dignity by providing a discrete rinse rather than doing the wiping for her
- When her hemorrhoid becomes irritated or bleeds
- To keep diaper rash in check during the hot summers
- To provide a soothing rinse whenever there is irritation
At this point, I cannot imagine trying to care for Mom without it.
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So, I used a bidet seat once at a colleague's home ( Her husband had had a heart attack and wanting no wiping his private parts!).

It was quite an experience and I want one, am saving up for it. But I think it could be disconcerting to an elder.
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I have never met a woman who likes an elongated toilet - they are designed for men and don't ask, I'm not sure why.

If there is any way for your mother to "see" the difference in taller, elongated, vs the standard bowl - you might be surprised that she could very-well prefer the standard - as a short woman, I personally hate the taller toilets and really hate the elongated ones.

They do make a toilet-seat-lift so Mom won't have to sit down as far and easier to raise up - but again, this too becomes old rather quickly. My DH had one after his first knee surgery and we tried again recently because at 96 he had too much trouble. He hated it. So I put in Grab Bars all over the bathroom and he's much happier now. Also a "Toilet Surround" that he can use to get up. (think "walker" surrounding the toilet - similar) Much better solution. P.S. he hated the higher, elongated toilets too.

RE: the bidet: go for it. I believe it is an option if you use it or not.
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I found with my Husband that the sooner changes were made the better he could cope.
With the bidet seat you will have to be there and help her with the use and the functions. Also the first few times she may get startled and try to get up and that could present a fall risk. As the dementia progresses she will forget how to use the functions so you will have to continue to be there to help.
The house that my Husband and I moved into was built handicap accessible and both bathrooms have the tall, elongated toilets. I love them. (As a matter of fact when I have to use a "regular" toilet in a public washroom, I feel like I am sitting on a child"s toilet.) Interesting thing the sink in the fully handicap bathroom had an infrared faucet on the sink. I had to remove that because he did not understand how to just put his hands under the faucet to get the water to run. It was frustrating for him. So after several months of trying I replaced the faucet and he was much more able to deal with the hand washing and brushing his teeth.
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I have also read that a bedside commode with the bucket removed, splash guard in place is a good solution for toilets that are not ADA or have no grab bars, gives height needed with something to hold and push up on. More stable then the risers. Just information.
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